I'm reading "this is how your marriage ends" by Matthew fray and the whole first chapter is him being like, "at 34 years old, divorce made me think about how other people might be feeling for the first time in my life."

If you are pathetic as a man, you are better off not getting married. Your marriage will be shit. You will not be revered. You will be in some practical arrangement with a woman who doesn't admire you using you for her own (usually financial, and reputational) reasons. Contempt will be normalised. The more dignified routes for you are to improve yourself until you cease to be pathetic, or to keep being pathetic, but not to marry. Of course, there is never really any dignity in being a pathetic man, but, being pathetic and married is even less dignified than being pathetic and unmarried, because a pathetic man that's married is going to spend his life berated by a contemptuous woman who despises him. It is a worsening of an already very bad situation. You know those couples, where you observe them, and rather than envy what they have you think "thank fucking God that isn't my life" - this is what makes people think they aren't missing out, and appreciate the peace they have being alone. It actually takes skill to be married. I don't think the average person has what it takes to be married. Entire cultures need 55 different people to meddle in the social mechanics of their marriage, because the actual people involved aren't strong or functional enough to manage their own affairs. It is not for the faint of heart. In fact, whether you are a man or woman, marriage, in reality, is really only for the strong. If you are a pathetic person, you are going to be a shit spouse. I go harder on men because it is our place to lead, but it applies to women too. Weak women make for terrible, unreliable wives too.

Girls who don’t ask for much are genuinely the ones that deserve everything and more. The formula is simple: Become a successful man, marry a low maintenance woman and give her everything she’s too shy to have ever asked for.

I tried to warn Asian women about the dangers of white men but they made me delete it. Too spicy. Truth hurts I guess...

Here's a list of the reasons women provide for why they got an abortion. The least common explanation was incest, followed by rape. The most common was that having a baby would be a lot to handle.

Almost literally no one would voluntarily sign up for a sexless marriage. If you have this problem, you have to fix it, or your partner will cheat or leave you. #data_be_like

Myth: Dads don't do their fair share. Truth: Dads actually spend slightly more total time on family work (paid work, housework & childcare) than moms — nearly 60 hours/week. Source: @aibm_org

My son is three years old. For the past two weeks he’s been at a summer camp a few hours a day. The teachers have complained to my wife three times already. Here’s what they reported: He pushed another kid. He didn’t sit still when told to. He tried to leave the room when they said no. He can’t stand in line. I’m not exaggerating. Grown adults pulled my wife aside, three times, to report that a three-year-old acts like a three-year-old. They warned her that if he doesn't change his behavior then he can't continue attending the camp. Maybe we should medicate him. Fix the defect of being a small boy with energy and a will. He won’t be going back. I don’t want people like this anywhere near my son. A civilization that pathologizes a toddler for refusing to sit in a line can't raise men willing to stand and defend it.

A lot of women think they’re gonna be ok later in life being alone cuz they’re used to it now but I suspect being alone in your 20s and 30s while still receiving ample male attention will feel much different than being alone in your 40s and 50s. Pride

From the perspective of a brother to a severely mentally retarded sister, it’s just not worth it. Nothing against her. But the reality is more horrifying than most people understand. In our particular case, she can’t feed, dress, wash herself. Can’t walk, or speak and needs 24/7 supervision. Not to mention the incredibly disruptive violent screaming tantrums. One just has to weather them out and try not to lose patience, whether they happen in public, or at Christmas dinner. You don’t bring friends or girlfriends home to that. You can’t even speak to each other across the table when that happens. Our lives were dominated by providing care in a hughly stressful environment. Late night trips to A&E. Endless treatments and medical consultations. My mother’s life is still dominated by it. Most people in these situations simply don’t have the resources, and live forever in subdued desperation. Actual life needs to take priority. I would not do that again, if I had a wife and other children, I would not put them through what I grew up with under any curcumstances. I would terminate the child’s life if they showed sighs of such disability. Jail would not deter me in putting first the needs of wife and children.

The Chinese government’s true intention behind creating the Great Firewall is actually to protect the rest of the world from Chinese internet users

"Choreplay". I think I've realized why people seem to get so up in arms about this term. Some people are using it simply to describe how attractive it is when the husband takes initiative, when he is the captain of his ship instead of a lowly deck hand. His participation and initiation and households maintenance and management helps her relax into his strength, competence and trustworthiness, decreasing her stress levels and allowing her to desire him more. The other group is using this to mean transactional chores, where the man has a list and he dutifully follows it, but only because he expects something in return and will behave and throw tantrum accordingly if it is not given. Women see this and hate it because he is still acting as a subordinate, not the captain of his ship or even a copilot.

Yep we directly nurture our men's growth 😆

The funny thing is, taking this absolutist attitude does offer them something. Even of a coomer nature they care about so much. You're almost there. So close we can taste it. They do feel the same way Diane. Only you're brave enough to say it. And put these filthy little moids in their place.

So if a man just decided he was no longer going to be the provider and protector of the family because he just didn’t feel like it or it caused stress then that’s ok? No. This woman needs some mental health help because this is not normal behavior.