The Last Jedi is the ultimate movie for downwardly mobile Millennials. That's why it recasts failure as success, because it means you're actually providing valuable lessons for the next generation of trans youth to succeed or whatever.
But actually, if you fail at something, it means you're a loser. There are many ways of dealing with this reality without succumbing to despair or pathological self-hatred. But you are a loser. You have not helped anyone. You have not achieved anything. You have failed at what you set out to do.
This is what Yoda means when he says "Do or do not" in The Empire Strikes Back. It's a more profound message than it seems like. You have to actually do things in order to live the life you want. If you keep telling yourself that you're just going to try your best, you're just going to rot in place until one day you're suddenly old, and then just as soon you're suddenly dead.
There's nothing inspiring about the message of The Last Jedi. It is designed to make you feel better about your inadequacies, which are not things you should feel good about at all. Again, this is different than hating yourself or thinking you have no worth. But you cannot delude yourself about the things that are holding you back.
Calling TLJ โnot real Star Warsโ because it dared to challenge heroes and explore failure isnโt just gatekeeping, itโs missing the point George Lucas made for decades.
Movies for kids can still be for adults too.
My guess is if you hate The Last Jedi, you would have hated The Empire Strikes Back too (if social media had been around to tell you how you were supposed to react to it).