“Stay safe from people with BPD” is genuinely awful. You should not be writing an “informative” pieces with on someone else’s mental health with such fact an conviction when not actually experiencing this disorder. just because you say you have a “sister and a coworkers wife with BPD” does not give you the lens to properly understand someone with these isssues to say their mental illness is their justification. The way you are speaking you sound as if you are talking about an animals habits.
I can say not just me but MANY vtubers struggle with untreated and unmedicated symptoms of BPD, but we are still people who have the ability to reflect on ourselves to know using someone else’s trauma as a weapon is NEVER okay. Especially when 25-60% people diagnosed with BPD are also diagnosed with ptsd. (Post traumatic stress disorder) This diagnosis is also given to people most of which who are abuse and SA victims.
Borderline personality disorder does make people impulsive and act on fear responses yes, but it does not MAKE people monsters like how this post makes it seem. we still have the ability to cope and control our actions even if we may not be in much control of our emotions.
I think we need to stop vilifying mental illness when people who struggle have already been the victims and that’s why usually they are like this. you wanna say they ALWAYS are in that mindset of playing the victim card (and if so its rightfully) while also making the good attributes of BPD people seem as “charming” as a facade instead of some of the most intense genuine emotions someone can share to you. BPD people feel the most EXTREME intensities not just with fear and crazy responses but genuine heightened joy and love for others I’m glad I’ve gotten the pleasure to experience while others can’t get to those heights.
when people act crazy maybe stop to question the trauma that made them break that bad? What pushes them for such absurdity to be their reality. Do you think you will be able to understand a broken mind? This is QRT was belittling and vile to read and know others have too. don’t use victims diagnosis for vtuber drama engagement farming next time maybe, it’s very damaging in ways you don’t understand👍🏻
Deme, the VTuber, has BPD, borderline personality disorder.
It's something I have relatively intimate knowledge of, as my sister has BPD, and I had a coworker whose wife has BPD.
They have intense, rapidly shifting emotions with fear of abandonment, along with huge defensive responses. They have the uncanny ability to always see themselves as the victim, no matter what the context is or the circumstances, and due to the impulsivity in their "defense," they can become quite unhinged.
People with BPD also have solidly black and white thinking, seeing the world in a us vs them mentality, which is how she can justify her vile attack against Chibi. These people practically never take accountability, fault, or anything, often blaming everyone else except themselves.
They will frequently engage in DARVO (Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender). They will deny the wrongdoing and then attack the person raising the concern, often in a screaming, emotionally volatile tone, and then reverse the original instigator as the victim.
They can often "mask" their symptoms in a public setting for a while, often for many years, but after enough stressors mount, they crack and that mask slips off.
She can blame it all on PMDD (Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder) all she wants, but her behavior is textbook BPD... the same kind of toxic behavior my sister displayed, and the same stories from my coworker with the BPD wife.
Some of the stories include ones like the BPD wife intentionally harming herself, often seriously enough to be hospitalized, only to blame it on the husband, or even reframing it because the "husband" was emotionally abusive. Similarly, my sister has self-harmed on multiple occasions only to escape discipline from my parents, for fear she might escalate. My sister's husband was also blamed for all the "ruination" that "he" caused against her.
The coworker and my sister's husband both shared the same phenotype. Quiet, reserved, nice, and harmless... but you can tell behind all of it, they were deeply in love but also deeply scared of their spouse... not knowing when the next blowup is going to be.
The Simps for women with BPD can be just as toxic, as their pull during the good moments can be legitimately magnetic, and they form strong parasocial bonds with creators such as her. People with BPD, when they are happy, are very charismatic, charming, and very warm... almost a complete mirror reverse of the depth of their toxic downward spiral.
The simps become blinded by her toxic nature, reinforce her DARVO attacks, and so many idealize women with mental illnesses. "That crazy chic" is the trope that so much of the simp economy is catered to.
TLDR... Stay away from people with BPD. They are dangerous and will often ruin your life, even through a parasocial lens, and treatment often has limited success.