I'll say this,
I have been trying to improve on my collab etiquette. I have run into a lot of issues of my voice being so soft and gentle that people talk over me... a lot.
And when this happens, its not just about me not having a good time. Its that my community SEES and HEARS my collab partners talking over me and ignoring me. I then, as a collab partner, have to make a decision on how to proceed so we don't walk away from that experience with my community writing those creators off as rude.
Its a rock and a hard place because people talking over me has usually nothing to do with the quality of their character and more to do with their culture. So, I'm always at a crossroads. Do I simply not talk unless spoken to? Or, do i find a way to excuse myself from the collab to prevent further damage?
And then, with future collabs, how do i bring up this concern? Its why I tend to be picky sometimes with WHO I want on my stream. Do I think they are going to make space for me in front of a community who holds me so dear?
I have a collaborative spirit, but a voice that is louder in my actions than my words. I always love a kindred spirit, but then, I want to love those who don't understand me the same.
Do you guys have any bad collab experiences?
My worst one was a couple years ago with a VTuber. We were supposed to play Valorant together, but something came up on their end. They canceled less than an hour before we were scheduled to go live. I get that emergencies happen, so I reached out to reschedule… and got completely ghosted. A short while later, they even unfollowed me.
We had similar-sized audiences, so it wasn’t like I was a nobody to them. I was just left hanging with nothing. I hope they were okay, but it definitely left a sour taste in my mouth.