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every time i witness mean girl energy i just think wow, what an exhausting way to experience the world.

My friends feel safe around me because I don't nitpick their personal choices and I don't assert myself in their lives as a therapist.

it’s very normal and common. everybody is annoying, you’re gonna annoy people that love you & they’re gonna talk about it

Maybe it’s also misogynistic on your end to not see the ways women are destructive to their female friends in ways men are not. This isn’t to say I don’t value my female friendship more than my male ones. Trust me I will prefer women always. But I’m not going to act like the trauma I’ve endured from a lot of my past female relationships does not stick with me to this day. It doesn’t turn me off but women should be allowed to have the safe space to talk about it without yall getting your panties into a fuss perpetuating the same issue they complain about. Yall never want to learn the truth

i love women but yall love pretending you aren’t extreme social judgers/ostracizers towards women who are a little “off” bc of trauma or neurodivergence or simply not adhering to patriarchal beauty standards or behavior modifications. look in the mirror and ask urself why that is

“During the darkest days of the AIDS crisis we buried our friends in the morning, we protested in the afternoon, and we danced all night, and it was the dance that kept us in the fight because it was the dance we were fighting for.” – Dan Savage

yo sí creo que no hacerte amigue de las personas con las que trabajas es una forma muy, pero muy fácil de terminar siendo abusada por tu jefe.

sometimes you have to stop psychoanalyzing what happened and who did it and just be like oh these people just hated me and that’s it

Male-centered women have nothing to offer me as a friend. They're insufferable.

I used to think I was shy until I realized that I was just spending most of my time with abusive people who I couldn’t be myself around without being harmed for it.

Se creen un partidazo porque trabajan y hacen ejercicio. Pero la estabilidad no es solo productividad. También es saber comunicarse, mostrarse vulnerables, sostener conversaciones incómodas, gestionar emociones y tener responsabilidad afectiva

Do not talk about discernment if you cannot recognise when someone needs compassion more than criticism and correction. There is a time to guide and a time to simply hold space for a person who is hurting. Wisdom knows the difference. And kindness knows it even faster.

someone treating you shitty in the middle of your grief is something you don’t forgive or forget

xavi

people sometimes want to make the shame they feel for what they did to you out to be some kind of “harm” on par with what they did. which i always find interesting

We’ve lost the art of just being like “hey man that was kinda uncool.” Everything has to be the biggest deal ever and people have to be groveling begging for forgiveness and apologizing profusely for every little thing. Sometimes a “yeah that was uncool my fault guys” is enough

RT @CynthiaHijar: Cuando pusieron la ciclovía aquí en Eduardo Molina, la gente originaria que tenía sus talleres mecánicos, vulcanizadoras…

wait... no wayyy

According to attachment theory, genuine love is reflected in how someone responds to your pain, not just your presence. When someone truly values your wellbeing, their deepest fear isn't losing access to you it's causing you harm. But when someone only loves what you provide for them, they fear losing their supply, not hurting your heart. This subtle difference reveals everything about whether you're loved for who you are or what you give. Notice which one keeps them awake at night.

Idea millonaria: una serie como The Pitt pero situada en la cocina de una Casa de Toño de 24hrs