Men are used to not facing consequences for their actions.
So they, of course, immediately revolt at the idea of Joel's long life of violence coming with any actual cost.
"Still can't believe Naughty Dog killed a character who did very questionable things which ultimately lead to his demise"
Love Joel as much as the other guy, but saying he did nothing wrong and that it wasn't understandable for Abby to seek vengance is kinda strange to me ngl.