People are determined to misunderstand this post.
1. Making out with your partner is good. Regular affection, scheduled or spontaneous, is a good way to keep connection strong.
2. Non-sexual affection is good. In fact, women need regular non-sexual affection, which leads to more regular sex.
3. When all affection is sexual or expected to lead to sex, one partner (usually the woman) feels uncomfortable because it sets an unreasonable expectation.
Your job within your marriage is to communicate and figure out whether 1 can be 2, or if 1 is 3. Whichever way works for your marriage, do that.
there's a sex therapist who has a ritual of making out with her husband every night before bed, and so many of the comments on her posts are some version of "but what if he gets turned on and I don't want to have sex" and i need men to understand and prioritize non sexual touch.