Apparently my phrase “each man his own storm” has made a lot of you uncomfortable or upset, so I’m going to lean into it rather than soften it.
Feminism has spent decades trying to mitigate the storm: flattening differences, sanding down aggression, pathologizing intensity, and recasting masculine drive as something sus that needs management rather than direction. The result is a kind of engineered stillness that looks stable on the surface but produces men who are disconnected from any sense of force, purpose, or edge.
A storm doesn’t disappear because society (women) pretend it shouldn’t exist. It either gets suppressed until it breaks something, or it’s understood and harnessed. The cultures that figured this out forged and funneled male volatility into existential agents of change like exploration and invention.
“Each man his own storm” is an acknowledgment of raw material. The question isn’t whether the storm exists, because it does, inside each and every one of us men. The question is whether we as a society are capable of setting it free.