You think too highly of your daughter's abilities
Those were the words my daughter’s math teacher said to me, adding, “She won't succeed. It's not her strong suit. Her scores aren't good enough to stay in our college.”
A year ago, these words would have crushed me. Yet, today I can calmly respond, “Indeed, maths isn't her strong suit. But I know exactly what her strengths are. And I know why she needs maths.”
Every parent faces critical moments in their child's education when the child gives up on a difficult subject. You as a parent are left with a painful choice: should I help my child persevere? Should I make an effort, spark their interest, and offer support? Or should I let it go because it's “not what they need”? What if I'm leading my child in the wrong direction and my stubbornness will only break them? Or what if this truly is their path, but they’re just going through a crisis, and if I don't support them properly, we'll miss a window of opportunity?
My daughter enrolled in a college with very high academic standards. We knew it would be hard. We just didn't know to what extent. Maths became our nightmare. My daughter started hiding her poor test scores from me, which was completely out of her character. Whenever I tried to explain maths to her, she would get angry and burst into tears at the first sign of difficulty. It was a wall, and getting through it required not mere explanations, but first of all, a psychological breakthrough.
An exam was approaching, and I saw the full scale of the problem. To explain things that felt elementary to me, we needed a whole day of studying. An entire day! Maths had always come easily to me, and I never expected it could be so hard for my daughter.
We cut out all entertainment and other activities. For a whole month, she had nothing but exam preparation. It was emotionally and physically exhausting. For both of us. A question kept echoing inside me: “Am I doing the right thing? Maybe I should stop tormenting her?” I've always been willing to do everything I can for my kids. However, questions like these put me in an unbearably difficult position of choosing.
That's why, when I came across info about the Quantum G test on the net, I was immediately intrigued. The test's scientifically grounded results would actually reveal what innate abilities my child has and allow us to build an optimal approach to her education. As a mother, I would be confident I'm doing the right thing.
My daughter agreed to take the test. More than that, she was genuinely inspired by the idea that she had a genius we hadn't yet discovered.
When the test results arrived, we were both surprised. At the same time, everything suddenly made sense. Genius potential: communication. Strong talents: chemistry and music.
Communication. I recalled that from early childhood, she had a gift of finding common ground with anyone and working things out. Even at school, despite all her struggles with certain subjects, she never had conflicts with teachers. Yet, without the test, I would have never thought of this as her potential area of genius. I could never imagine communication was something we needed to develop.
Chemistry. A strong talent. Everything clicked into place. Maths isn't her talent indeed, but it’s now clear why we’re doing it. Knowledge of maths will open opportunities for my kid to deeply study chemistry where she has a talent and potential to achieve great success.
I'll be frank: my daughter isn't excelling in everything right now. Maths is still a struggle for us. It's a subject that can decide whether she stays in this college. Yet, when her math teacher now tells me that I think too highly of my daughter's abilities and she'll never make it, that doesn't upset me. I don't lose heart. I don't doubt if I'm leading my child in the wrong direction. I simply understand that, yes, maths isn't her strongest quality. To grasp the basic knowledge the college requires, she needs to work harder than other kids. And she definitely needs my support.
Now, when we study together, I don't think, “Maybe this isn't her path.” I think, “This is hard, but we're moving in the right direction.” That changes everything.
We have a lot of work ahead. But as a mother, I'm sure I can give the very best of what I have for my daughter’s education because now I know.
P.S. The Quantum G test is a scientifically grounded map of your child's potential. Not guesswork. Not intuition. Knowledge. At times, it is exactly knowledge that gives you strength to keep going even when it’s hard.