Becoming fulfilled as a man is actually EXTREMELY SIMPLE:
1) Take personal responsibility for your life. You may have not been dealt the best cards. You may have trauma from earlier abuses. You may have had people fuck you over. Guess what? We ALL have. WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO DO ABOUT IT? Are you going to sit in your room and cry like a little bitch? Or are you going to become BIGGER than your problems and become an unstoppable force for good in the world? You're a healthy individual with access to the INTERNET. EVERYTHING you've ever wanted is just knowledge, commitment, & follow-through away. Blaming ANYTHING externally other than yourself is failure. YOU are the only thing you can control. So you HAVE to master YOURSELF by taking an honest look in the mirror & accepting where you're fucking up. Accept it like a man, fix it, and put your shit on a better path. Your life will ONLY improve if you can summon the strength to swallow the FIRST pill of inadequacy, accept that what you have in your life is directly related to your competence levels, and commit to becoming better.
2) Create a regular meditation practice to strengthen your awareness. This is a GYM for your mind. Observe yourself as you act - the more self-aware you become the more clear "where you fit into the world" will become. You will be able to analyze your strengths, accept your weaknesses, and create systems that propel your forward in the highest-leverage vehicle you can find.
3) Your word is BOND. Fulfillment as a man comes when you've developed SELF-RESPECT. It's THAT fucking simple. If you're not "happy" as a man - YOU DO NOT RESPECT YOURSELF. And the majority of the self-respect doesn't actually come from the achievement itself - it comes from taking the COURAGEOUS actions that are required of you to DEVIATE from society's "traditional path" & start walking down YOUR MF PATH.
4) Develop an "operating system". Discover your personal values. Learn to think critically. Become aware of the biases of WHO is giving you information and WHAT their agenda is for giving you this information. Much of this will come from your meditation practice as you strengthen your mind's ability to focus. You MUST have a personal operating system that allows you to yes "YES" or "NO" to things from a place of logic & reason. If you do not have this you're floating in the ocean.
5) Learn to create DIRECTION for yourself (and accept that it's okay to fuck up as you move forward). As a man - it's completely acceptable to fuck up an INFINITE AMOUNT OF TIMES as long as your intentions are pure and you are moving FORWARD. That is actually not a fuck up - it is called LEARNING. What is NOT ACCEPTABLE is inaction. What is NOT ACCEPTABLE is coping, complaining, & speaking into existence the victim mindset which is infecting your mind. Must kill this. You have the reigns.
6) Treat people with respect & NEVER fuck anyone over. You CANNOT be fulfilled & content as a man if you are being tortured continually tortured by your own shadows. If you are trying to outrun what you know will eventually catch you. Conserve the energy of paranoia by operating cleanly & only forming enemies when you absolutely have to. You want to develop a reputation of doing what you say & treating people well. And you can only do this by doing what you say & treating people well. AKA integrity.
7) Understand you're not alone & plug yourself into a group that you find on the internet. You NEED community to not go fucking insane. The "lone wolf sigma grinder no friends" is absolutely bullshit and will lead to massive unhappiness. Understand that EVERY single day there are millions of men struggling forward for greatness just like you are. You are NOT alone. And amazingly - some of these men actually WANT to help you (assuming you are in the same lane as them). The key to success is finding communities on the internet that are into what you're into. You need to find men who have what you have (and let them teach you) & others who are on the same path as you to push your forward. BUT BE AWARE: Many internet communities are actually mind-viruses disguised as education & progress when in fact what they actually contain is coping, victim mindset & crying. Avoid those.
8) Answer the call inside of you. This is the foundation of self-respect (aka fulfillment). You have an intuition as to what you should be going for. But you're scared. Your brain starts fucking with you saying things like "that's totally unreasonable", "you're insane for thinking that", "it's not worth it - just take the safe route". NO. It is worth it. Understand you can ALWAYS revert back to society's path. It's always going to be there. But your window to make the moves that you need to for your soul's contentment isn't. THAT is finite. Ask yourself "if I died today, what is the one thing that I SHOULD HAVE done / went for that I didn't?". Do that.
9) Choose the path of most resistance. You have to conquer your inner bitch if you want to earn your way to self-respect. You will be CONSTANTLY fighting your own brain every step of the way. When your brain pulls a knife, you have to unleash a fully-automatic machine gun. I am currently on day 6 of a water fast. People are asking me things like "are you hungry??". NO SHIT I'M HUNGRY MF. But it is not about how you FEEL. It is about your value system. I VALUE the feelings of following through more than I value the feelings of the cheap dopamine I'd get from flavor. It is a simple equation. Create a plan to get out of the bullshit you're in and stick to it. The game then becomes "how much hard shit can I do and make it through to the other side?". THAT is where life becomes a video game.
10) Trust yourself. Trust that the voice inside of you that is leading you in the right direction. Develop the skill to hear your own intuition when it talks to you - and then have the courage to obey it. BELIEVE that you are so much more powerful than the current narrative you'd adopted for yourself in your mind that has been imposed upon you by people who DO NOT have what you want and DO NOT have your best interest at heart. It is NOW time to change the narrative in your mind. You are destined for greatness (if you can stop fucking up). You can make all the money & develop the relationships that will give you a fulfilling life if you can create a gameplan for yourself and pull yourself out of the bullshit that is destroying your fucking life.
Wake up.
Ily <3
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