This is perfectly good and reasonable advice from spiritual leaders in the church. Good & normal.
You want your friends, siblings, and cousins to tell you to date, what to wear, how to text, etc. Not spiritual leaders. The fact evangelicals expect this from pastors is insane.
Singleness can be a gift that the Lord uses for your good and His glory.
Watch as Rebecca VanDoodewaard encourages single women to be fruitful with the time God has given them.