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Last night, after learning of the passing of Brad Arnold, 47, the frontman and lyricist of Three Doors Down, I found myself lying in bed with the lights off, thinking about what he meant to me.
I was in my very early twenties.
I was a U.S. Marine, stationed in Okinawa, Japan.
And when Here Without You was released, I was going through one of the hardest seasons of my life.
At night, I listened to that song quietly in the barracks.
I let myself feel everything Iâd been holding in.
I cried the kind of tears that actually move something through you, the kind that leave you lighter afterward.
Thatâs when it hit me how music really works.
We say music is universal, and it is, but not because everyone likes the same songs.
Itâs universal because you donât need explanation or permission for it to reach you.
You donât even have to fully understand the words. Like opera, it carries emotion straight past language and into the body.
Music becomes an invisible presence in our lives.
It sits with us when things feel too heavy or too deep to explain.
Sitting alone in a car after a breakup, rain tapping against the windows.
The volume either turned all the way up or barely there at all.
Moments where life feels overwhelming, but the music understands anyway.
And the beautiful thing about music is this, it doesnât care if youâre healthy.
It doesnât care if youâre chronically ill, chronically pained, disabled, or exhausted.
When the body takes things from us, music doesnât.
It lets us visit the dreams we never got to fulfill.
It carries us back to memories of who we were when we felt vibrant and strong.
It holds our milestones too, first loves, weddings, long drives, quiet nights we didnât realize would matter so much.
Music is something we can always turn to when life comes down hard on us.
And we have an entire palette to choose from, different genres for different seasons, different wounds, different moments weâre trying to survive.
Thatâs why some losses hit deeper than we expect.
Because certain voices werenât just entertainment, they lived with us.
They helped shape who we became in moments we survived quietly.
And when a voice like that is gone, we donât only feel the loss publicly.
We feel it in the quiet place we used to turn to when nothing else could hold us.