“If I didn’t define myself for myself, I would be crunched into other people’s fantasies for me and eaten alive.” — Audre Lorde My new website is live — a home for my thinking, my offerings, and my practice. 🔗 leannelevers.com

How aunty want the hot gyal dem fi dress when them go beach

open.substack.com/pub/leanne… @Jadakingdom

CHEW Foundation Co-Founder & Board Treasurer Kathryn Lewis-Green @katlew11 and founding Chairperson Dr. Leanne Levers @drleannelevers shared the vision driving the Foundation’s work with children in Jamaica’s state care system on @Smilejamtvj

Serve my first ace in a tournament today. #proudofme

Whatever is happening- there is hope.

Refueling.

Love refuses to be an accountant of another person's faults.

If you cant love you cant forgive If you truly love you can forgive anything

I’d rather be the villain in their fictional story than the victim of their ungrateful reality. You can’t control how people frame things when their ego gets involved.

Jon Bernthal in Punisher- Last Kill. Top tier.

Jamaica: earthquake. again. Me: runs to Twitter to validate I didn’t dream it.

Restorative Justice has taught me that healing is possible, even after the deepest harm. I’ll always believe in accountability, Grace and the courage to rebuild what matters. 💜

open.substack.com/pub/leanne… Happy Mother’s Day to all the mothers who love their kids with an unmatched fierceness - in life and in death.

She also could’ve just been genuinely busy 🙄

My therapist once told me that when people see something in you that they don’t have. They’ll love you for it or try to destroy you.

How much more fame do we need?!

Presented to the Brazilian Judiciary today.

Everything is better when you shift to a space of gratitude and forgiveness

They put 17 people, married an average of 21 years, into a brain scanner and showed them a photo of their spouse. The same parts of the brain lit up that fire when a teenager has their first crush. Two decades together, and the chemistry was still going off like fireworks. The study ran at Stony Brook in 2011. What changes after 20 years is the anxiety. That panic of not knowing if they love you back, the wondering, the checking. All of that fades. The pull toward them stays. So that tells you what old love looks like in the brain. It doesn’t tell you how a couple gets there. A marriage researcher named John Gottman has spent 40 years on that question. He films couples arguing in his lab at the University of Washington and predicts whether they’ll divorce. He gets it right 93.6% of the time, from 15 minutes of footage. More than 3,000 couples now. He watches the two-second moments between sentences. The pauses. That’s where the prediction lives. The fights themselves matter less. His go-to example: your wife is staring out the window and says, look at that bird. You glance up and say, oh wow. Or you keep scrolling on your phone. That tiny choice, that little reach for your attention, is what he calls a bid. He watched newlyweds in his lab and followed them for six years. The couples who were still married had responded to each other’s bids 86 times out of 100. The couples who divorced had responded 33 out of 100. Same money fights. Same in-laws. Same dishes in the sink. The one thing that was different was the bird. This part stopped me. Gottman found that 69% of the things every couple fights about are problems that never get solved. The chores. The money. His mother. Whose family they spend Christmas with. The arguments repeat for 50 years. Happy couples and unhappy couples have roughly the same list of problems. The happy ones learned to argue about that list without contempt. The eye roll. The sigh. The little smile that says you are pathetic. Gottman calls contempt the sulfuric acid of relationships. He says it’s the single biggest sign that a marriage is over. When you see two old people asleep on each other on a plane, the forgiveness in that picture is real. They have absorbed thousands of small failures by now. There is something quieter underneath the forgiveness, though. Decades ago, one of them said look at that bird. The other one looked up.

1% better every day.