Ten years ago, Gordon Collins was convicted in court. Two years ago, he died in prison before ever being released.
That should have been the point where the truth was no longer argued and the focus remained where it belongs, on the harm done, the survivors, and the failures that allowed it to continue.
Instead, many of us were forced to watch people defend him, excuse him, and attack those who came forward.
It was not only strangers making comments. It was care workers, co-workers, family members, and others who still chose denial over reality. Even after evidence was heard, verdicts were reached, and was serving time in prison, some people continued insisting he “would never do that,” that he was “a nice guy,” or that me and the other girls were lying.
That is one of the hardest truths in abuse cases some people find it easier to defend an abuser they knew than to accept the pain of the children he harmed.
Even now, two years after his death, some of that same rhetoric still exists. Survivors are still being called liars. A convicted man is still being defended. Proven facts are still being questioned.
Several charges went before the court. Some resulted in guilty verdicts, some did not. That is how the justice system works. What should never have happened is survivors spending years afterwards being judged, doubted, and publicly undermined.
I will still be releasing my video about how he was able to continue abusing for as long as he did, and the failures that helped protect him. Abuse does not continue in a vacuum. It continues when people ignore warning signs, stay silent, protect reputations, and refuse to face the truth.
I have delayed it because university work and life responsibilities have needed my focus, but I have not forgotten.
Ten years on, and two years after his death, I am still choosing truth over denial.