REJECT the people pleaser within. There is no certificate, no diploma or degree attached to it, the most you can get out of it is being betrayed by the very people we tend to admire a little bit too much. People pleasing is a disease! It has been scientifically called, the "disease to please". In Physics, as in life, the highest always corresponds with the lowest, that's why kind-hearted individuals, genuinely, quality and warm-hearted people are at the same time some of the most cold-blooded people walking around the earth. They are as warm-hearted as much as they are cold-blooded, simply for their own self-protection and NEVER to cause harm to others. Because, when unevolved people, when stunted human beings first meet a kind, a soft spoken, a quiet and a generous person, they first get quickly very excited because they see the kind person as a buffet or as a steak and think that they have hit the jackpot and sadly mistaken that they are going to use, abuse and misuse the kind person and get out of them as much as that they can get out of them. But, little do they know that the kindest people in the world are also some of the COLDEST people you will ever encounter in your life because those type of people are extremely rare, they are not acting, they are not people pleasing, they are truly kind-hearted individuals who often tend to stay in their lane simply because they are the salt of the earth. They are like that because the word kindness has been written as a moral code on their heart and there is no hidden agenda. They are being authentic with people while most people that they deal with are being strategic with them. They are a couple of tricks or traps that I could use here but to keep this post a bit shorter, I will only use kindness as one of the ultimate trap for finding out about people's heart posture towards you, to find out about what type of people that you are dealing with in your day to day life, aka in your human experience. When you first meet someone, just be kind to him or her and treat him or her with the utmost respect but pay close attention to how they respond to your kindness. Your kindness will never be well received by bad or evil people, they will see it as an opportunity to get over on you, to manipulate or to control you. That's why it is extremely important to never be naive in thinking that everyone around you has the same kind of heart as you do and are as kind as you are. Most people you will encounter in life should be rejected by you, either directly or indirectly, simply because they don't have your best interest at heart. Kind-hearted people are some of the most intelligent people walking this earth and yet, some of the most unintelligent, some of the dumbest people in the world will often view them as the dumbest among us, regardless of how many advanced degrees they hold, or regardless of their fancy titles. Never stop being a kind-hearted individual if you're already are but you must also be extremely cutthroat, and go COLD in a nano second, once you realized that someone is taking your kindness, which is your authentic nature, for weakness and make sure you PERMANENTLY and FOREVER cut them off and revoke this good side of you that you gave them in your previous day to day interactions and immediately revert to being cold-hearted and a no nonsense kind of man or woman, making sure that they never ever tried you ever again. This duality, this polarity should be implemented for your own and ultimate self-protection. In your human experience, some people will use you for your gift, for what you carry but they will never like you as a person, you the carrier of the gift, ain't that some shit? Those type of people who move like that in the world are viewed as low value, as societal parasites that feed on others as exactly as vampires would. There is no need to be rude and disrespectful but never hesitate to quickly switch gears and cut them all off PERMANENTLY.