A lot of ink is spilled about female solipsism, but ask any woman the number of times a man she's living with has gotten up to get himself a glass of water and not bothered asking if she wanted one too. Daily lack of consideration is just the tip of the iceberg.
I'm reading "this is how your marriage ends" by Matthew fray and the whole first chapter is him being like, "at 34 years old, divorce made me think about how other people might be feeling for the first time in my life."