You might have heard of microaggressions; those subtle digs or throwaway comments that seem harmless on the surface but carry sharp, hidden messages:
āYouāre so inspiring for coming to work.ā, āYou donāt look disabled.ā āWeād hire more people with disabilities, butā¦ā, āI didnāt mean it like that.ā, āYouāre being too sensitive.ā
These arenāt ālittleā things. Not when you hear them every day. Not when they chip away at your confidence, credibility, or right to belong.
If youāve ever been:
- Spoken about instead of to
- Interrupted or ignored in a meeting
- Asked to share your story only when it suits someone elseās agenda
- Praised as āinspiringā when youāre trying to be taken seriously as a professional
You know the sting. You know the silence that follows. You know what it costs.
Microaggressions donāt just hurt feelings. They shape culture.
They become normal. They go unchallenged. They quietly tell disabled persons:
"Youāre lucky to be here, Donāt make it uncomfortable, Donāt expect too much."
So what can we do?
āØļø Replace it - Use microvalidations to build safety & respect in culture.
āØļø Interrupt It - Call it out. Educate. Awareness. Hold certain persons
#Accountable.
āØļø Name It - Make space for people to say, "that didn't land well."
āØļø Validate It - When someone tells you the comment or behavior was harmful, believe them. When someone says that they are "upset" or "mad" or "feeling erased," believe them. Provide validation.
And... CHECK IN.
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