I’ve given up on living in Britain. Here’s why I think America is the answer
Most of my friends think I’m mad to move to Trump’s America, but the UK is on a terrifying downward trajectory - The Telegraph
Australia. Germany. Iceland. Mauritius. Italy. And now back to the UK. My young family has been on a world tour trying to find the perfect place to settle down, but we’re hopeful that our next jump into the unknown will be our last. We’re heading to America.
You might think my husband and I have embarked on an excessive number of moves in the five years we’ve known one another. Especially now we have two small children (a son, 3, and a baby daughter) in tow. But the planet is large, and our lives are short. We have flexible jobs, and exist in a period of human history where one can roam relatively easily in order to find the perfect spot. Both of us agree it’s worth taking advantage of that.
It is with considerable sadness that Britain is not the land in which we’ve decided to lay down roots, for there is much I love about my country of birth. The humour. The pubs. The history. The people (some of them, at least).
But the mood of the nation just isn’t what it once was. We’ve collectively become more anxious and weedy. It’s no coincidence that we started our search for an alternative to the UK during our hysterical Covid response – which could not have been further from the “Keep Calm and Carry On” mantra we once relied on to get us through hard times. Things have continued to go downhill since the pandemic.
Land of opportunity
So why America? I have always had my eye on that giant, glossy nation across the Atlantic. Just as shipfuls of my fellow countrymen did centuries ago, I truly believe it’s fertile ground for a better life. I lived there during my 20s so I speak with some authority.
America is big, bold and undeniably beautiful – as I’ve discovered on holidays to Utah (home to some of the nicest locals I’ve ever met), Nashville (riotously fun), Los Angeles (impossible to dislike, so long as you don’t take it too seriously) and Texas (full of rustic charm and, increasingly, modern energy). The opportunities are endless, if you’re willing to work hard. There’s an almost delusional sense of optimism that breeds success.
Yes, even now. Yes, even under Trump. Granted, most of our acquaintances think we are utterly mad for choosing this precise era to make the leap, but I won’t be talked out of it. Of all the places in which I’ve lived, it ticks the most boxes.
Politically, I lean to the right. I don’t think Trump is wrong about absolutely everything, which is more than I can say for Keir Starmer, whose every policy seems designed to deter people from working hard and reward those who don’t.
I have serious concerns about the impact of Britain’s recent immigration policy. I have a friend who lives in West London and whose local state school is made up of more than 80 per cent Muslim students. As an atheist, with serious concerns about elements of the Islamic faith, I simply would not want my children educated in that kind of environment.
A more immediate concern is the UK’s sky-high nursery fees. Ludicrously, and despite soaring interest rates, the average monthly cost of sending a child to nursery now exceeds average mortgage repayments in many parts of the country. Mothers can’t afford to stay at home to raise their own children, and they can only just about afford to send them to nursery. This is a national disaster, as far as I’m concerned, with no solution in sight.
The pros and cons of 4 countries I have lived in:
Iceland:
Stunning scenery, everyone speaks English, pet-friendly, very efficient bureaucracy, great schools
No sun in the winter, no darkness in the summer, dodgy food, snow makes driving tricky (or impossible)
Mauritius:
Year-round sunshine, cheap living costs, good watersports, strong expat community
Humidity, corruption, widespread animal cruelty, pollution.
Italy:
Unbeatable food, diverse landscape, friendly people, culturally rich
High taxes, unbearable bureaucracy, no-one outside cities speaks English.
Australia:
Amazing weather, limitless activities, high standard of living
Annoying accents, extortionate rental prices, perilous creatures, too cut off from rest of world.
Speaking of mortgages, mine doubled last year – so I sold my London flat at a huge loss. It had taken me 11 months to evict my tenant, who had lost her job, stopped paying her rent and was refusing to leave or allow estate agents in for viewings. The local council advised her to stay put because they had no space to house her, and because, they helpfully pointed out, UK law makes it excruciatingly hard for landlords to get rid of tenants who don’t pay their rent, so she’d be foolish to move voluntarily.
Starmer is passing new laws to make it even worse for landlords, so understandably everyone is selling up, the property market is in shambles, and – put off by this and many of his other policies – investors are moving their wealth out of the country. Never a good thing.
Visa woes
To make matters worse, even if we wanted to stay in the UK now, obtaining a visa for my German husband to live here has proven nigh-on impossible. You might assume, given the many thousands of immigrants that continue to languish in hotels, with the British taxpayer picking up the bill, that it would be easy for someone like Julius to gain residency.
Not if you want to do it legally. Notwithstanding the fact that he is married to a UK citizen with two children born on English soil, he doesn’t qualify for a spouse visa because I, the applicant, don’t earn enough money. It doesn’t matter that he, a pilot, is the breadwinner and I’ve been on and off maternity leave having babies and thus not working much.
Under Starmer, this government would rather I live here alone as a single mother on benefits than allow my highly qualified European husband to live with us, provide for the family here, and pay UK taxes. It’s absurd. I’ve sought legal advice from two immigration lawyers, both of whom have said our only option would be to make a “human rights application” to the Home Office – an expensive and risky approach, with no guarantee of success.
The US, on the other hand, is quite in favour of kicking out illegal migrants (while preferring detention centres over hotels) and welcoming those who can contribute to the economy. We are moving there on the E-2 Visa, which requires us to invest at least $50,000 in an American business. So with the money from finally selling my flat, my husband and I are pooling our savings into an Airbnb operation in upstate New York.
I know the area, the Catskill Mountains, pretty well – and have family there. We’ll be living on 18 acres of my aunt’s land. There are four proper seasons. It’s a scenic medley of peaks, forests, meadows and waterfalls. The locals are chirpy, as Americans tend to be.
We plan to eventually buy an RV so we can tour the whole country, a nation so diverse you can embark on every sort of holiday possible – skiing, surfing, leaf-peeping, city-breaking – without ever whipping out your passport.
In the meantime I will write, raise animals along with my children, and manage the Airbnb business. My husband’s pilot salary will be double what he could earn in Europe. We’ll no doubt need this extra money given the extortionate cost of healthcare insurance. Yes, I realise America is far from perfect (the fear of school shootings is no doubt to come). But nowhere is without its downsides.
Just look at the other countries we’ve cut from the shortlist. Australia? It was splendid, but too far away from everywhere else. Iceland? Very cool, but with dodgy food and a climate that’s too harsh. Mauritius? Nice for a holiday, but too much pollution, corruption and animal cruelty beyond the resorts. Italy? Glorious weather, landscapes, people and cuisine – but the bureaucracy and the language barrier were too big a hurdle for me to clear.
There’s a lot I’ll miss about living in England, and I hope to visit often. Perhaps one day I’ll even return. But for the sake of my children in particular, the country would have to be on a much better trajectory than it is right now.