Author, ghostwriter, journo, editor šŸ“šāœļø 9 books of my own, 3 for other people. Bylines in @StylistMagazine, @UKWomensHealth, etc. Subscribe to my newsletter!

Joined April 2010
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10 Nov 2023
"It could be worse! It is what it is, amiright?" Why do some of us believe we must crack on, no matter what? Why do we feel such shame when struggling? My new "Just One More Thing" article investigates where this belief comes from & what to do about it: jousmar.substack.com/p/stop-…
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8 Nov 2023
How to survive the uniquely Dutch phenomenon of 'circle parties', which I have affectionately renamed 'Dutch Circles of Death'. *WARNING: this article contains wild generalisations about both the Dutch and the British. All of which are absolutely true. jousmar.substack.com/p/survi…
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15 Sep 2023
Imagine discovering that what you believed was acceptable & hilarious behaviour is actually offensive, gross & oftentimes illegal. For men like Rubiales, that means reassessing your entire life OR doubling down. My new article (read/listen) is out now! jousmar.substack.com/p/luis-…
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6 Sep 2023
My new piece on being ghosted by two mates has struck a chord with a lot of people, which is both reassuring (I’m not alone!) & really sad (there are a lot of ghosts out there). Surely we should trust our friendships to withstand difficult conversations? jousmar.substack.com/p/i-was…
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25 Aug 2023
RT @Millar_Colin: It is not hyperbole to say that this Rubiales speech - both in its tone and content - is more damaging than anything that…
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16 Aug 2023
ā€œThe game of football is quite unsuitable for femalesā€ was the FA’s official reasoning for banning the English women’s game in 1921 (yes, that is a direct quote). My new piece is about the extraordinary circumstances that led to today's semi-final. jousmar.substack.com/p/what-…
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12 Aug 2023
I don’t even follow the ā€œHistoric vidsā€ or ā€œmorbid knowledgeā€ accounts but that is my entire feed. Interspersed with some random who’s ripped off a viral tweet from four weeks ago. My God. It’s such awful shite. I really used to enjoy Twitter 😭 Pls can someone stop Musk & fix it
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28 Jun 2023
My new piece is on feeling guilty for resting. For seeing pals. For watching Criminal Minds. For having a bath. Toxic productivity has got me by the throat to the point where if I’m not ā€˜doing’, I’m failing. What is this nonsense? jousmar.substack.com/p/toxic…
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6 Jun 2023
At @Harry_Styles’ gig in Amsterdam, I saw him help a fan come out. He was hilarious & kind, & it was v moving. Made a reel of it. Watch out for the comments, ā€œCan I get some gay sax please?ā€ ā€œWhen this flag goes over my head, you’re all gay!ā€ 🌈🄹🧔 instagram.com/reel/CtJHKENoc…
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4 Jun 2023
Two Harry Styles tix available for tonight in Amsterdam. I can’t go anymore. I am obvs devo’d but also tired and old. Selling for cost price. Let me know if interested! #harrystyles #amsterdam #harrystylesamsterdam #harrystylestour #harrystylestickets
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30 May 2023
My new ā€˜Just One More Thing’ article/audio article is about my massively dysfunctional relationship with running: I love it. I hate it. It brings me health; it brings me injury. It brings me pride; it brings me self-recrimination. Bleugh. Ring any bells? jousmar.substack.com/p/the-l…
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30 May 2023
All I see on my feed now are viral videos from like 3 profiles, none of which I follow. Some of the vids are violent, gross & really messed up. I don’t want that on my feed. Anyone else getting this? (Addressed to the 12 people who see my tweets, probs none of who follow me, lol)
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25 May 2023
šŸ’Æ tuning in for this! Daisy’s such a delight to listen to and her books are hilarious, confronting and relatable.
'You don't even have to WASH.' Come! Choose your snacks! Wear pyjamas! And one person is going to win a set of three signed hardbacks - INSATIABLE, CAREERING and LIMELIGHT!
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23 May 2023
The video of the Mizzy guy touching the woman’s face on the platform will be triggering for so many because we’ve all been in a situation where we’re scared to react in case a man gets violent. It’s why all these ā€œshe could have said no/pushed him offā€ narratives are bullshit.
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23 May 2023
In this case, he literally did outwardly threaten the women, but in so many other instances ā€œnice guysā€ wonder why women play polite when they aren’t interested in engaging. Um, because we’re scared of you.
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23 May 2023
We are only the main characters in our own lives, no one else’s. Accepting this and embracing our cameo status is a blessed relief. My new ā€˜Just One More Thing’ article/audio article is out now! jousmar.substack.com/p/embra…
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16 May 2023
ā€œA smorgasbord of shamelessness: What Trump’s lack of shame means for all of usā€. My new ā€˜Just One More Thing’ article/audio article just dropped (link below)! Do we all start laughing about sexual assault now or what? jousmar.substack.com/p/why-t…
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5 May 2023
Everyone! Identify your nearest bunker and stock up on beans – THE ROBOTS ARE COMING.Ā My new Just One More Thing article investigates whether the fact that the ā€˜Godfather of AI’ says he’s now terrified of AI means we’re all doomed. Read/listen here: jousmar.substack.com/p/is-ch…
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25 Apr 2023
This is fantastic
I have time today so I'm going to talk to you about my writing process - something that I believe helped me get an agent really fast (3 days) and helped her sell GOOD GIRLS DIE LAST just as fast (3 weeks). You may not like it, it's very unromantic, but it works for me.

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