Author, ghostwriter, journo, editor šāļø 9 books of my own, 3 for other people. Bylines in @StylistMagazine, @UKWomensHealth, etc. Subscribe to my newsletter!
"It could be worse! It is what it is, amiright?" Why do some of us believe we must crack on, no matter what? Why do we feel such shame when struggling? My new "Just One More Thing" article investigates where this belief comes from & what to do about it:
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How to survive the uniquely Dutch phenomenon of 'circle parties', which I have affectionately renamed 'Dutch Circles of Death'. *WARNING: this article contains wild generalisations about both the Dutch and the British. All of which are absolutely true.
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Imagine discovering that what you believed was acceptable & hilarious behaviour is actually offensive, gross & oftentimes illegal. For men like Rubiales, that means reassessing your entire life OR doubling down. My new article (read/listen) is out now!
jousmar.substack.com/p/luis-ā¦
My new piece on being ghosted by two mates has struck a chord with a lot of people, which is both reassuring (Iām not alone!) & really sad (there are a lot of ghosts out there). Surely we should trust our friendships to withstand difficult conversations?
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āThe game of football is quite unsuitable for femalesā was the FAās official reasoning for banning the English womenās game in 1921 (yes, that is a direct quote). My new piece is about the extraordinary circumstances that led to today's semi-final.
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I donāt even follow the āHistoric vidsā or āmorbid knowledgeā accounts but that is my entire feed. Interspersed with some random whoās ripped off a viral tweet from four weeks ago. My God. Itās such awful shite. I really used to enjoy Twitter š Pls can someone stop Musk & fix it
My new piece is on feeling guilty for resting. For seeing pals. For watching Criminal Minds. For having a bath. Toxic productivity has got me by the throat to the point where if Iām not ādoingā, Iām failing. What is this nonsense?
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At @Harry_Stylesā gig in Amsterdam, I saw him help a fan come out. He was hilarious & kind, & it was v moving. Made a reel of it. Watch out for the comments, āCan I get some gay sax please?ā āWhen this flag goes over my head, youāre all gay!ā šš„¹š§”
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My new āJust One More Thingā article/audio article is about my massively dysfunctional relationship with running: I love it. I hate it. It brings me health; it brings me injury. It brings me pride; it brings me self-recrimination. Bleugh. Ring any bells?
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All I see on my feed now are viral videos from like 3 profiles, none of which I follow. Some of the vids are violent, gross & really messed up. I donāt want that on my feed. Anyone else getting this? (Addressed to the 12 people who see my tweets, probs none of who follow me, lol)
'You don't even have to WASH.' Come! Choose your snacks! Wear pyjamas! And one person is going to win a set of three signed hardbacks - INSATIABLE, CAREERING and LIMELIGHT!
The video of the Mizzy guy touching the womanās face on the platform will be triggering for so many because weāve all been in a situation where weāre scared to react in case a man gets violent. Itās why all these āshe could have said no/pushed him offā narratives are bullshit.
In this case, he literally did outwardly threaten the women, but in so many other instances ānice guysā wonder why women play polite when they arenāt interested in engaging. Um, because weāre scared of you.
We are only the main characters in our own lives, no one elseās. Accepting this and embracing our cameo status is a blessed relief. My new āJust One More Thingā article/audio article is out now!
jousmar.substack.com/p/embraā¦
āA smorgasbord of shamelessness: What Trumpās lack of shame means for all of usā. My new āJust One More Thingā article/audio article just dropped (link below)! Do we all start laughing about sexual assault now or what?
jousmar.substack.com/p/why-tā¦
Everyone! Identify your nearest bunker and stock up on beans ā THE ROBOTS ARE COMING.Ā My new Just One More Thing article investigates whether the fact that the āGodfather of AIā says heās now terrified of AI means weāre all doomed. Read/listen here:
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I have time today so I'm going to talk to you about my writing process - something that I believe helped me get an agent really fast (3 days) and helped her sell GOOD GIRLS DIE LAST just as fast (3 weeks).
You may not like it, it's very unromantic, but it works for me.