The most brutal piece of dating lore right now is the collective cry that "the dating pool is completely empty" and "men refuse to commit."
āThe dating pool isn't empty at all; we are just all swimming in the exact same 10% of it. Social media and Netfilx movies have completely distorted our baseline of what an "average" man looks like. We have millions of women competing for a tiny, highly concentrated fraction of men who check every single aesthetic, financial, and charismatic box.
āBecause these top-tier men hold an absolute monopoly on the dating market, they have zero incentive to settle down. They treat dating like a revolving door because the math allows them to. So, we end up getting played by a man with infinite options, and then we project that heartbreak onto the entire male species, tweeting that "all men are trash." We aren't being rejected by all men. We are being rejected by a specific demographic of men who don't need to choose us, while the other 90% of men, the ones who would actually build a safe, loyal, consistent life with us, are treated as completely invisible.
What opinion about Men do you have that makes people feel like this?