Annie came to our school as a six-year-old. She struggled with behaviors, making friends, and pretty much in all academic areas. Annie had been abused and neglected. She had seen so many bad things that we hope no child ever has to see. We had a very difficult time managing Annie’s behaviors. She used inappropriate language, she pushed and shoved, and she regularly eloped from the classroom and our school. Most of our strategies, interventions, and methods were not successful.
After a while, we noticed that she had a real gift for making change. Nobody was sure how she picked up this skill, but she really was good at it.
Our cafeteria staff recruited Annie to help with making change at breakfast before school. After a few weeks, she was promoted to coordinator of biscuit distribution (she used the large tongs to place a biscuit on each student’s tray). The cafeteria staff provided her with her own customized uniform consisting of a hair net, an apron that was about 10 sizes too big with her name on it, and a box of clear plastic gloves. After a month on the job, they allowed Annie to pick the radio station that they listened to while working. They quickly learned that beyond making change, Annie had some great dance moves and could really keep the beat. She became a full-fledged member of our cafeteria staff team.
It didn’t take long for our school PTO/boosters to take notice of the kitchen star. One of the mom’s knew about Annie’s struggles and also about her ability to make change. They too recruited Annie. She was tasked with helping run the school store that was open during lunchtime. They relied on her change making abilities. The boosters made Annie a uniform too. It was a shirt that was bedazzled with the words “Annie, Honorary Booster Board Member”. Annie became the youngest member of the booster sorority.
Annie’s negative behaviors reduced significantly. She was a totally different child in the most positive of ways.
One day, she came to visit me in my office. Annie said that she was feeling something. I was worried that she was going to throw up, so I quickly ran to get my trashcan. She said that it didn’t feel like throwing up, it was something different. Annie said that it was a tingly feeling in her belly and in her chest. She also showed me lots of goosebumps on her arms. After a moment, I realized what Annie was feeling. It was love, kindness, pride, success, and hope. She had never felt these feelings before. Annie left my office and I started to tear up.
It truly takes a village. Keep doing whatever it takes for kids! It is so worth it!
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