also on this note (hot take incoming) the whole concept of shaadi, dressing up for your ‘special day’ when you feel like a princess is delulu pro max. ur being served on a platter for public consumption and I understand looking NICE but the pomp and show is just not it
i wish i was dumb enough to be a choice feminist and genuinely believe that doing my hair, makeup, etc. was just "because i want to", but unfortunately every time i do those things i am painfully aware of the influence the patriarchal beauty standard has on me