Every social media post and news about Twisha Sharma and her Ex- Judge mother - in law - Giribala Singh, makes me wonder why does the society discuss a woman’s character instead of discussing what happened to her.
Her WhatsApp messages are being questioned.
Her mental health has been brought up.
Her relationship with plants is being discussed. 😊
Her “liberal views” have became a subject of debate.
At every step, the spotlight has moved away from accountability and toward her character.
This is not accidental.
Character assassination has always been one of society’s favourite ways of dealing with uncomfortable questions. If you cannot defend what happened, make people question who it happened to.
And what struck me most was not just the comments from Giribala Singh. It was the fact that Twisha’s own parents did not support her enough - “ignore it”
Imagine that.
Everyone has become an investigator of a person’s character, while the search for truth has quietly slipped into the background.
Patriarchy is rarely as simple as men versus women. Sometimes women become its strongest gatekeepers. The “ideal woman” must be agreeable, traditional, self-sacrificing, family-oriented, emotionally contained, and endlessly accommodating.
The moment a woman steps outside that script, her credibility becomes negotiable.
What Giribala Singh’s statements reveal is not merely a family dispute. They reveal a societal instinct: before asking whether a woman was wronged, we first ask whether she was worthy.
Did she pray enough?
Was she respectful enough?
Was she traditional enough?
Did her parents raise her correctly?
These questions are not seeking truth. They are deciding eligibility for empathy.
And that is what disturbs me most. I have personally been at the receiving end of my own family members who haven’t spoken to me for 20 years because I decided to step away from their script of a good daughter.
Justice cannot depend on whether we approve of someone’s personality, lifestyle, beliefs, messages, or choices.
The question is never whether Twisha was perfect.
The question is whether we are willing to look beyond our biases long enough to see humanity and accept people.