the kicker is that, based on reported orgasm rates, men are often the ones who are initiating sexual contact with their wives without it ending in any sort of release for the female partner. men regularly engage in the sort of behavior they're having a meltdown over.
what I learned from this is that if you make out with your husband but don't want to have sex, he'll be mad at you. this is great!!!!!!!!! who knows why dead bedrooms exist when husbands are this great!!!!!!!!!!!!!