Get Unrealistic
There is a process that I have used, and still use, to reignite life...đ
Create two timelinesâ6 months and 12 monthsâand list up to five things you dream of having (including, but not limited to, material wants: house, car, clothing, etc.), being (be a great cook, be fluent in Chinese, etc.), and doing (visiting Thailand, tracing your roots overseas, racing ostriches, etc.) in that order.
If you have difficulty identifying what you want in some categories, as most will, consider what you hate or fear in each and write down the opposite.
Do not limit yourself, and do not concern yourself with how these things will be accomplished. For now, itâs unimportant. This is an exercise in reversing repression.
Be sure not to judge or fool yourself. If you really want a Ferrari, donât put down solving world hunger out of guilt. For some, the dream will be fame, for others fortune or prestige. All people have their vices and insecurities. If something will improve your feeling of self-worth, put it down.
Drawing a blank? In that case, consider these questions:
What would you do, day to day, if you had $100 million in the bank?
What would make you most excited to wake up in the morning to another day?
Donât rushâthink about it for a few minutes.
If still blocked, fill in the five âdoingâ spots with the following:
one place to visit
one thing to do before you die (a memory of a lifetime) one thing to do daily
one thing to do weekly
one thing youâve always wanted to learn
What does âbeingâ entail doing?
Convert each âbeingâ into a âdoingâ to make it actionable. Identify an action that would characterize this state of being or a task that would mean you had achieved it. People find it easier to brainstorm âbeingâ first, but this column is just a temporary holding spot for âdoingâ actions.
Here are a few examples:
1) Great cook â> make Christmas dinner without help
2) Fluent in Chinese â> have a five-minute conversation with a Chinese co-worker
Determine three steps for each of the dreams in just the 6-month timeline and take the first step now.
Define three steps for each dream that will get you closer to its actualization. Set actionsâsimple, well-defined actionsâfor now, tomorrow (complete before 11 A.M.) and the day after (again completed before 11 A.M.). Once you have three steps for each of the four goals, complete the three actions in the ânowâ column.
Do it now. Each should be simple enough to do in five minutes or less. If not, rachet it down. If itâs the middle of the night and you canât call someone, do something else now, such as send an e-mail, and set the call for first thing tomorrow.
If the next stage is some form of research, get in touch with someone who knows the answer instead of spending too much time in books or online, which can turn into paralysis by analysis.
The best first step, the one I recommend, is finding someone whoâs done it and ask for advice on how to do the same.