If you get a girlfriend and she likes you she will change to fit your vision. But you have to have the vision, and if you attract her with a vision, but dont follow through, you only lose her if you fail to follow through on ANY vision.
This is real, hard earned wisdom.
eTrads: "so marriage is this slave contract you sign that ensures that not only do you not have access to pussy, but that you'll be severely impoverished and have your wages garnished for all eternity if you cheat."