There is no right or wrong way 💕 if you notice it after, apologize gently to yourself. Picture yourself as a little puppy or a bug or something innocent and sweet, and say “im so sorry i was mean to you, you didnt deserve that, i love you”.
Its hard to take yourself seriously, and thats one of the struggles. But even if you dont believe it, even if you feel angry or ashamed or embarrassed to say it, say it anyways. Its your duty. If not for yourself, then for others around you that you love. Saying it even when you dont believe it, making it a habit, WILL eventually lead to you believing it.
A really great tool ive found is almost pavloving myself so that even when i feel good, i remember to show myself that care and kindness. When i see a butterfly, i tell myself that i am loved. When i feel the sunshine, i tell myself my body deserves it like a flower.
Being kind to yourself is really hard work. It takes repetition. It takes effort. You will have days where it is easy and days where it is the hardest thing youve ever done.
But there is nothing you have done that cannot be fixed and cannot be forgiven. We cant change the past. But we can absolutely give ourselves a new beginning every day 💕
How do you handle it when the ball gets rolling on the negative self talk and you only notice it after? Or if you don’t take yourself seriously enough to listen? Asking for a… bird, one of my birds. That’s who I’m asking for, yeah