"The key for the man is to adopt a posture of blase emotional distance alternated with loving tenderness. Too much of either and she’ll run off." –Roissy I would have written this somewhat differently, with more nuance Here’s my version: *** The key for the man is this: • You need to be busy and focused chasing your dreams, don’t sacrifice your dreams and put her at the center of your world • Make sure to have at least one sexy hobby that keeps you in circulation, constantly meeting new people • When you’re with your girl, be loving and tender • But if you’re overly needy, overly available and always attentive to her every whim, she will start to lose attraction because she will start to lose respect and admiration for you • She WILL try to shit test you and pressure you into giving up your own dreams and activities in order for your life to revolve around her 100% • Don’t fall for this shit test. You need to be able to establish boundaries and hold onto your beliefs • Also, don’t get resentful when she does this. It’s not her fault. It’s just her feminine programming

One day you're going to see someone move through life as if most rules don't apply to them and they're going to be thriving in every way imaginable. You are going to have either 1 of 2 responses to this: 1. Bitterness and resentment. You did what was expected of you; you followed the rules, but you haven't seen as much success as you'd like. You hate to admit it, but you secretly pray on their downfall. Prostatic discomfort overwhelms your sphincter as you get more uptight. 2. A serious paradigm shift occurs in your life. You see how many of the restrictions you placed on yourself were fake all along. There is no bitterness, you are happy to bear witness to the raw potency of the human spirit once it has been set free. Your eyes glisten with new beauty Like a child, inner excitement overwhelms you as you're introduced to a whole new world of opportunity and wonder. The geometry of you reality changes, you see new angles everywhere. You had more agency than you could have ever fathomed. You just had to see it with your own eyes. It clicks. You could always dictate the terms of your life for yourself. You can handle the rest.

The coolest people are always the weirdest Everybody who's ever been successful is a weirdo...going against the grain. I've been weird my whole life, but until I embraced it I was not free. Weird comes from the old english word wyrd, meaning "having the power to control destiny" It also means "something supernatural; uncanny" Own your weird

One of the most attractive things to a woman is a man who can successfully speak or perform in front of a crowd, because it combines risk-taking with social approval.

If you want to become a great man & live a dynamic life, you need to take big risks But you need will not simply to take the plunge but to survive the trial with your soul intact. You must keep the faith If you lack it you will never reach the full potential God promised to you

Every man who did something that looked impossible to the people around him just had will and nothing else. i know this sounds stupid and reductive but ive watched it enough times to stop doubting it. talent matters so much less than people think. intelligence matters less. money matters less. what matters is whether a man can hold one single decision inside himself long enough for it to start changing the things around him

It’s so much easier than you think: Advance yourself to a point where ordinary people struggle to believe what you’ve accomplished. Let your real stories be so serendipitous, so absurd, that they shatter fragments of mediocre reality just to comprehend them. Watch them. Most people don’t do much of anything. They don’t study. They don’t train. They barely work. They have no hobbies. They don’t venture. Even in leisure, they do nothing. Few stories to tell. Entire lives, sclerotic. They wait for things to happen to them; they do not go out and happen to things. Do this for a few years, and the gap will become so vast that most people won’t even believe you’re real. It is that serious. Your whole pattern of thought will change. Your experiences attract likeminded people toward you those who find joy and exuberance in the full spectrum of life, who have stories to tell, who create vivid memories with you. Finally, you find people who live with spirit. Who are not so boring, predictable, and the same — who have a lust for life. People just like you.

You can do this for a couple hundred dollars and far better results if you just follow this social recipe: 1. Create an event to invite people to Could be a picnic where you talk about the bible or a pickle ball meetup or play basketball It doesn’t really matter just throw some event that you would enjoy going to 2. Invite people you meet out Now you have a reason to take down numbers and invite people somewhere. It won’t feel so awkward anymore and you actually have a reason to build your network now. From here you just throw the event and continue to invite more people and it will continue to grow and expand. 3. Throw it on a weekly or twice a month basis This way it’s something casual people don’t have to worry about missing and can drop in with a little pressure and leave just as easily You want to design the event to essentially be something that people can check out and stay if they like but I have no pressure to stay if they wanna leave That way people will come and they will naturally bring their friends including girlfriends will bring their girlfriends and then you just throw it to 100 or so people all while you are being in the leadership position so you look absolutely amazing And the best part is because it’s doing something you like you’re having a blast anyways I guarantee you that you would find far better girls with this method than hinge and going on dates Ask me how I know this works? Because I have many friends that have done it and I’m about to do it myself. And here’s the best part you can also use it to just build a community which is my intention Really what I’m sharing with you above is a community building skill. You choose what you wanna do with that skill. But once you start and lead a community it is hard not to have dating options with the community but more importantly also connections. Connections are some of your most powerful assets especially when you’re young Those will grow into your most valuable relationships This entire process will change your life if you do it And you’ll never have to download another date again. God dating apps are sad. Still never used one and never will. Don’t need it. My social skills don’t need to rely on some dating platform that no one actually wants to be on Buttars more afraid of being alone than being with somebody they don’t like. I have higher standards than that for myself.

Do not allow ANYONE to cuck you into thinking charisma isn’t a learnable skill and quality. Think about it logically - is it possible to become LESS charismatic? YES. Obviously. By admitting this, we concede that it is also possible to become MORE charismatic. Train the behaviour until it becomes automatic habit. Simple.

Recently I’ve been reminded of how just sticking with something can put you ahead of the crowd. I’ve been learning a new skill in an evening class and after two months 80% have dropped out.

This is difficult for a lot of guys to understand, but attraction is not actually about ‘you’. The initial attraction a woman has to you comes from the image you portray. Then, she’s attracted to the feelings you elicit in her. Then she sleeps with you and is attracted to whichever of her fantasies she can fit you into. Once she’s in a relationship with you, she’s attracted to your various displays of power, prowess, strength, dominance — both physical and social; mental and emotional — that you show her in day-to-day life. You have a deep inner heart, your core soul, that is known to you and God. That inner, core soul is beautiful. No one will ever truly know it in this life but you. A woman can only ever know you through what you show her. Learn to showcase your inner self in attractive ways, and you BECOME attractive, without even needing to think about it very much at all. Many men do not learn this, and appear unattractive, even if their ‘inner selves’ — hidden from her, and from all the world — might indeed be beautiful. One way or another, in this flesh and blood world, we are stuck communicating with each other at the level of thoughts expressed through words and behavior. ‘Game’ is developing the ability to express yourself in ways that are attractive, and not unattractive. It’s a skill every man who doesn’t want to be frustrated, lonely, or regretful must learn.

Sex appeal comes from knowing who you are on a deep & intimate level Nothing sexier than confidence. Than not only knowing but LOVING who you are. Than owning the essence of who you are. You only get that from going thru an extensive journey of self discovery to figure out who you are & who you wanna be Once you do, others opinions go out the window. Why would they get a say in who you want to be? You create yourself.

IDGAF about looksmaxxing. You can be the hottest guy in the room. If you have no aura it simply does not matter. Think about all the hot girls you’ve met with 0 personality. Same thing is applicable for guys. BUT RACHEL. Hot guys/tall guys have such an advantage. They don’t even have to try and girls flock to them! This is true but the advantage is short term. The advantage is applicable if you’re looking for a quick hook up. Or something shallow. Maybe you are. Stop reading here. I have no advice for you. I think part of the problem in the first place is girls flocking to men. Right there the dynamic is already f*cked. Of course, for the ego, it feels good to have girls coming to you. But that’s not the way we were designed. Men hunt. Men pursue. Men chase. Anyone online or in real life telling you otherwise does not understand basic biology. Or perhaps is not a man of God. Maybe both. If you’re confused about male/female dynamics, turn on the animal channel. The males hunt for food. They look for their mate. Girls wonder why they can’t keep guys? Because you threw yourself at them from the start. You didn’t let them do their favorite thing. Which is to chase. We forgot how to dance or we never learned how to. (I talk about this in my recent substack but I digress.) THE KEY. Is aura. This is why I am so passionate on style > fashion. So. How to increase your aura? It starts with confidence. Confidence starts with knowing who you are. Confidence starts with knowing what you stand for and what you value. It starts with looking in the mirror and liking the person looking back at you. In terms of physical appearance, you do not need to look like everyone else, but you need to look like the best version of yourself. Maybe this is looksmaxxing, I don’t know, but this is rarely just external. The external reflects the internal. It starts with what’s going on inside. So if you look and feel like shit, that stops here. Move your body. Eat real food. Sleep. Do things that increase testosterone. Lift heavy. Stop smoking weed. Stop binge drinking. Make sure you’re sleeping. Manage stress. If you do these five things alone you set yourself up for success. Learn how to take your life seriously without taking yourself too seriously. Crack jokes. Own who you are and the life you are choosing for yourself. Have a mission that is greater than who you are. Care about the people around you. Be the one who shows up. Get laser focused on your vision, whatever that is. Ask questions. Stay curious. Stop trying so hard. You don’t need to “looksmaxx”. You need to beyourselfmaxx. That’s aura baby.

Your Aesthetic can be cultivated, learned, and studied. To an extent it may even be copied or stolen. This can never be said for Taste. Taste is the unconscious perception of the true inner essence of things, and how aesthetic might express it; it is a spiritual quality.

RT @hekkycastillo: And to add more detail onto the end of this, you simply take this knowledge of how attraction principles work THROUGH ac…

massive life unlock comes down to figuring out your personality type and what drives that type to push forward. connecting the dots between the work you are already doing - what you should be doing is a game changer. once you figure it out everything will start to feel effortless

If you never dedicate yourself to the pursuit of mastery in your craft an inner frost cripples you. There's a subtle hesitation in everything else you do, because you didn't undergo the process that forces you to learn yourself. You refused to participate in your own creation.

most retarded thing u could ever do is not use your unfair advantages because you dont want to be judged or look a certain away theres nothing noble about choosing a harder path

You must be authentic, not a character If you try to be macho or a goofball to spike emotion while still fearing her approval, it comes off as cringe and unauthentic. You must possess an energy that is organic and free from the fear of rejection.

Some of the most attractive traits in guys for women: -unapologetic authenticity -ambitious -socially calibrated (can tease well) -outcome independent -not a worrier -high certainty It completely balances out their feminine nature