More and more people on the moderate and conservative side are recognizing that feminism has been harmful. They talk about how it lied to women, made women unhappy, damaged families, hurt boys, and left men struggling. But frustratingly, the conversation often ends in the same place: women as the primary victims. Women are the victims of dating apps. Women are the victims of birth control. Women are the victims of delayed motherhood. Women are the victims of feminism itself. Even if all those things disappeared tomorrow, the deeper problem would remain. Feminism’s greatest victory was not dating apps, birth control, or women entering the workforce. It was teaching us that every social question must be judged primarily by how it affects women. Can we say that children need their mothers without immediately shifting the conversation to whether mothers will be bored? Can we say that a struggling marriage should sometimes be endured for the sake of the children without immediately asking whether the wife feels fulfilled? Can we ask what men need from women without first reassuring ourselves that women will benefit too? The family was built on obligations flowing in all directions. Feminism taught us to see obligations to women as moral, and obligations from women as oppression. Until that attitude changes, feminism remains undefeated.

Husband's friend, great guy still unmarried in his 40s, well to do, great job, 6 ft if it matters. Has been engaged now twice I think. But his mom is a lovely SAHM, 1 in a million temperament. He wants ALL that she must be very pretty and make 6 figs in a respectable job 😭

there's a sex therapist who has a ritual of making out with her husband every night before bed, and so many of the comments on her posts are some version of "but what if he gets turned on and I don't want to have sex" and i need men to understand and prioritize non sexual touch.

I have been married for quite some time now and I don't have any single friends. I don't know much about modern "dating" but I have seen some discourse about it here on Catholic Twitter. Let me say this clearly: what porn has done to men, romantic films and novels have done to women. A lot has been said about the dangers of porn, spiritual and otherwise. I'd like to talk about the dangers of romance. As we all know, porn has given men a twisted, perverted view of the conjugal act. Similarly, romantic films and novels have given women a twisted and disordered view of courting and marriage. I am sure that secular women would all disagree but I don't care much. I am primarily addressing young Catholic women here. The only reason why young Catholic women should "date" or more properly said, engage in courtship, should be to get married. Serial monogamy, having "boyfriends" or romantic affairs, being in a" relationship" for the sake of it - all of this goes against the core tenets of Catholicism. It is not fun; it is not normal; it endangers souls and further erodes the meaning of marriage. The same goes for "flirting". What is flirting anyway? The way I understand the word, it entails inciting lust in someone. As such, it is a grave sin. Why would an unmarried Catholic woman endanger the soul of someone she likes? Why would she endanger the soul of anyone including staining her own soul with a serious sin? Why would she want to turn herself into an occasion of sin? For a bit of fun? I've seen Catholic women on here compare their first dates with job interviews simply because the men they had dinner with wanted to understand how truly Catholic they are and how they view marriage as well as child-rearing. This is such an unjust, unfair and poorly thought out statement bases on the women's personal desire to experience "chemistry" (whatever that word might truly mean). Let's examine this a bit more. What is a job interview? It is a process in which a stranger who has no interest in the good of your soul, your future/present children or family, spending time with you or helping you get to heaven, merely wants to ascertain how much monetary or practical value you can provide for their company. I personally believe that this in itself is sinful but the modern job hiring process is not something I will get into here. I only touch upon it to the degree the comparison has been used among unmarried Catholic women. What is a proper Catholic courting/date? It's the exact opposite of job interviews. It's a person who is invested in their own salvation as well as in the salvation of others trying to find a future spouse who shares this sentiment. The two people who court should also both be eager to find out how the other party intends to raise potential future children. The inverted order of romance-first-and-figuring-out-the-important-stuff-later endangers souls, leads to heartbreak and and is a huge waste of time. Marriage isn't about fun although it can entail fun times (similar to how the primary end of the conjugal act isn't pleasure although it is often accompanied by pleasure). We need to get our priorities in order. Marriage is about child-rearing and getting to heaven. These are not the only benefits of marriage but they are its ultimate goals and the very reason for its existence. If marriage is about having children and getting to heaven, then "dating" is in fact a serious business, not some light-hearted romantic adventure. And romantic feelings can come and develop; they are not wrong per se. But seeking them over and above the end goal of courtships and marriage is disordered. And for Catholic women to insult men who take courtships seriously is honestly disgusting. If what you want most is romance and fun, then at least have enough decency not to date serious Catholic guys. Do not insult and ridicule good Catholic men simply because they want to know what parish you go to and whether you plan to be a stay-at-home mum.

The biggest financial flex imaginable is not caring about material status symbols and keeping non-essential spending to the bare minimum. I've seen so many takes about the importance of dressing well (the guy who tells you to wear a suit on an airplace-- lol) or buying the right watch or showing up to an event with an elite whip... All terrible advice The higher NW and liquidity you have... the more slovenly and ridiculous you should appear in your day to day comings and goings.

I have worked with scores of divorced men, and not a single one of them ever regretted having children with their ex. Many are even grateful for their marriages, no matter how painful, because of what they taught them These guys actually went through hell and aren't whining about it. Meanwhile you are so afraid of divorce (something that is largely preventable with maturity and good vetting) that you are missing out on most of what makes life worth living: love and legacy Get in the arena, and if you lose a round, get up and dust yourself off Focus more on having great stories and no regrets on your deathbed than worrying about being "ruined" The only thing that really ruins someone's life is pathological fear Many people's lives don't even truly begin until they get punched in the face

Vibe shift, none of this happens without Trump