Come check out the new and improved KindCompassCoach. Free #coaching resources for everyone, always. kindness-compassion-and-coac…

Narcissists thrive on creating a stressful environment because it keeps others off balance and easier to control. The constant unpredictability, criticism, or manufactured conflict puts people into a state of hypervigilance—always waiting for the next blow-up, silent treatment, or guilt trip. That stress isn’t an accident; it’s part of their strategy. By keeping you emotionally drained and distracted, they make it harder for you to think clearly, set boundaries, or recognize the manipulation for what it is.

Emotional safety changes human biology more than most people realize...

“You can be high functioning and highly overwhelmed at the same time. Capability does not cancel out dysregulation.” @LinneaPassaler

"We don't have to constantly be improving, healing, growing, or striving. Have you had fun yet today?” @TWLOHA

Start extending yourself compassion & care now. Don't wait. Your trauma conditioning will have you waiting forever to "feel like it." Don't get in your head about how "unnatural" it feels. Just pick one, teeny, tiny, self compassionate act of self care, here, now. Start.

The longer it lasts, the harder it is to shake the conditioning that is now rooted in our nervous system. We're not making choices; they are reflexes. It's challenging to unlearn, but can be done, if we give ourselves the kindness we expect from others throughout the process.

My therapist told me, “When a woman grows up feeling unseen, she learns to love by overgiving. She pours into everyone else, hoping that one day someone will finally pour back into her. She becomes the caretaker, the fixer, the one who shows up even when no one shows up for her. And the hardest part? Deep down, she’s not trying to be strong. She’s just waiting for someone to do for her what she’s spent her whole life doing for everyone else.”

THIS is why we need feminism and International Women’s Day to highlight it.

Don't let the fact that your journal was weaponized against you once upon a time keep you from using journaling as a tool in your trauma recovery now. "They" shouldn't get to decide what tools you do & don't have access to (&, not for nothing, journaling is a core recovery tool).

Intuition is your body’s wisdom alerting you to something your mind hasn’t figured out yet. Listen. Get curious. Hear what it wants you to know.

How you talk to yourself, ABOUT yourself, really will change your brain. That's real. It's happening now. Every minute of every day we're either reinforcing what our bullies & abusers told us & made us feel about ourselves-- or we're scratching that old, sh*tty record.

When someone breaks a bone, we don't call them "ill." We call them injured, hurt. There's nothing wrong with being ill; it's just not an accurate description. That's why I don't consider CPTSD & Dissociative Identity Disorder "mental illnesses." They are injuries. Survivors are hurt & in need of recovery, not sick in need of a "cure."

Pls spread the word about this FREE Self-Esteem series. #selfesteem #selflove #selfworth #lifecoaching linkedin.com/posts/joan-seni…

"Choosing yourself doesn’t have to be loud or selfish. It’s a quiet, steady realization that your peace is just as non-negotiable as everyone else’s.” ~Erin Vandermore What it cost me to always be the easy one: buff.ly/aGk1iNE

Blog: "Many trauma survivors have been shamed for feeling. Many trauma survivors have been told that their feelings are “the problem.” Many trauma survivors have been conditioned to believe their feelings are invalid— or maybe not even real at all." useyourdamnskills.com/2026/0…

"Sometimes we obsess over problems because the mind wants something to do. So give it something—learn, notice, focus, or create—before it takes control of you.” ~Lori Deschene

If you had a father or father figure who was emotionally unavailable or inconsistent, you may be carrying the scars. Learn what The Father Wound is and how to heal it now. Heal the Father Wound | 5 Compassionate Steps to Recovery #coaching #selfhelp #psychology #trauma

Struggling with change? Learn how to make discomfort optional and turn transitions into growth. Tips, exercises, mindset shifts you can use now. Read more: kindness-compassion-and-coac… #Resilience #Goals #Coaching

"Regret tells you that you should have known better. Compassion reminds you that you couldn’t have known until you lived it.” ~Lori Deschene