Here is my take on this whole controversy about men talking to women whom they’re attracted to:
It has literally always been true that most men are too timid (at least most of the time) to approach women and express any romantic interest in them. But, there also have always been a few men who overcame this fear (or never had it). These men do approach women in real life, and the result is that they experience many rejections and a few successes. These men know that the rejections literally do not hurt them (or the women) at all.
Rejection literally is nothing.
The “worst” rejection I’ve experienced from a woman I approached was a time (several years ago) when I stopped on a sidewalk to greet an attractive woman who was walking towards me, and she immediately—without saying anything—turned 180 degrees and ran away. Obviously that was an overreaction, but she herself likely didn’t have amazing people skills. Regardless of “why” that girl ran away from me, that “rejection” literally did not hurt me (or her) at all. It was nothing but a funny anecdote from my experience to share occasionally.
I don’t need to go into much detail about the “successful” interactions I’ve had from approaching girls in real life, but I have indeed dated girls by meeting them this way, and I’ve had great connections and memorable experiences with some of them.
I’m not talking about mere “hookups”. I’m not even interested in that. There still are men and women in this world who want to find romantic love with the right person.
If you are a single straight man who doesn’t approach women, then you are missing out on some potentially amazing connections. Think about that pretty girl whom you saw at a supermarket or a café. You could have talked to her. There was a non-zero probability that the two of you would have been really attracted to each other and really compatible with each other.
I myself have found that I’ve gotten to a point where I’m obviously better at approaching and talking to women than most men. I’m still not really good, and I still chicken out too often. I have no real “game”—I’m not amazing at flirting or starting fun conversations. However, I do it anyway; and occasionally, the results are amazing.
I will also address this idea that a man should not approach a woman who hasn’t first explicity displayed interest in him. This is silly, and it’s merely an excuse to be a chicken. Any women (and men) whom you see in public are usually just going about their lives, absorbed in their own little worlds. Moreover, in most cases, a man whom a woman doesn’t know is simply a neutral, non-sexual presence to her (if she even notices him)—that is until he initiates an interaction with her, displays his personality, and a good vibe develops between the two of them. If you wait for “permission” to approach a woman, then you probably won’t get it. Get that idea out of your head. You do not need permission to talk to someone! Seriously!
I don’t want to go into a whole thing about dating apps or online dating, but I hope that it is abundantly clear to everyone by now that meeting people in the real world is the superior way.
To summarize:
Men should approach women in real life, and they should stop being afraid of rejection. Also, it’s important to understand that any type of relationship (not only hookups) can begin this way.
The actual truth is a lot of guys are naturally timid and are secretly grateful that approaching women was stigmatized because it gave them a righteous-sounding excuse for their own cowardice.