Menurut ajaran china kuno
Ejakulasi berlebihan = menguras "jing" yakni energi terkuat dan sangat esensial di hidup pria
Jing yang terkuras membuat pria lebih rentan penuaan dini, lemas fisik, bahkan lebih cepat mati
Entah sugesti atau tidak, saya merasa lebih beruntung dan terberkati jika "jing" saya sedang dalam kontrol kesadaran saya
Sex, orgasm, no fab, masturbation, love, multi-orgasmic techniques, porn, depletion, relationships
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Wrote a long tweet on this, because I get so many questions about all this. So, I will deal with all questions and comments on this subject in one long tweet in depth.
Depletion
A lot of people nowadays follow the No Fap movement or try to limit masturbation. This is actually a good development in a world that is completely oversexualized and overpornified. Contrary to common belief, a lot of masturbation is not healthy.
Why not? To understand that, we have to dive into Chinese medicine a bit (or listen to the podcast I posted with Damo Mitchell in a few posts back). Essentially, we are born with a limited amount of jing (sexual power). It is the battery of our lives, and the faster we deplete it, the faster we get old and die. Men mostly lose this power through ejaculation, and women through their period and making babies. Simplifying things here a bit.
Masturbating, and getting addicted to it, not only depletes this energy faster, but it overstimulates your body unnaturally, and invites even more subtle forces (which Richard Rose discusses in his book The Sex Connection; I won’t go into detail here) which get you addicted. In our society, where we are constantly bombarded with sex images and have heavy porn instantly on our screens and devices, it is no surprise so many people feel burnt-out and overstimulated. A lot of people access this material frequently, resulting in the energy body being totally depleted in many people at a young age, hence the epidemic of depression, burnouts, and emotional imbalance, etc.
Normal
What is normal? Normal means not overstimulating yourself with artificial material, making love with your partner at a normal/regular interval, and not ejaculating so often (for men) or masturbating more than your age can handle (for men and women). Women don’t lose powerful semen liquid during ejaculation, so this is less relevant for them, but over-masturbation can harm them on more subtle levels just as bad as men (once again, read The Sex Connection book). Women mostly feel depleted after their period, which is normal since the period blood is pure jing energy leaking out.
A good rule from Chinese medicine for men is to take your age, divide it by 10, and square it. So if you are 20, divide 20 by 10, which is 2, square it, which is 2x2 = 4. So ejaculating once every 4 days is okay. If you are 30, 30:10 = 3. 3x3 = 9. So once every 9 days. At 40, once every 16 days, etc. Let me emphasize that you can still have as many orgasms as you want! Many people don’t know one can orgasm without ejaculation; see The Multi-Orgasmic Couple book for example. So, no need to cut down on making love. On the contrary, make love as much as you want but deplete yourself less, and you will be supercharged after it.
Why trying no ejaculation or no orgasm in one go is not recommended for men and women
So what happens when you suddenly stop masturbating or having orgasms? The body is basically a bio-electric machine. Once you stop having an orgasm, this energy (jing) starts building up. After a while, the pressure becomes so great, you have to release it: all natural. See the body as an electrical wire: if you keep increasing the charge, the cable burns out, so the only way to allow a higher charge is to get a thicker cable (up the amperage so to speak). We create such a thicker cable in the body by opening the energy channels. Mostly Taoist and Tantric practitioners have developed exercises for men and women to open the channels and energy centers, so that the body can handle more charge, and more importantly, learn to change this power into higher levels of refined consciousness. So, one literally transforms this power into higher energy centers. This takes years of serious practice to learn, so anyone who suddenly does the no-ejaculation method, without learning this, can seriously harm themselves. Actually, if you do this without proper training, you can kill yourself: the energetic imbalance and power will become so great that you can die or get prostate cancer, which is common in celibate monks that don’t know how to transform this power.
So what now?
I know this is a sensitive issue, but as always, I try to keep a moderate view.
1: Educate yourself, read the books on The Sex Connection, The Multi-Orgasmic Couple, or any other Taoist or Tantric book on sexual energy transformation.
2: First, try to be normal. Meaning: really love your partner, limit exposure to porn, slowly decrease masturbation rate, and increase meditation rate. This is not easy in a society where we are bombarded by all this material all the time, but it can be done. Realize most animals in nature, or even us humans not that long ago, had sex not that often, and most often to reproduce only.
3: If you are gay or lesbian, realize that you can learn with your partner also to balance energetically: for example, men can draw in yin energy from the earth (I have heard of gay couples that do the doggy style posture for example where the one with the hands on the ground draws in extra yin from the earth through their hands), or for women can draw in yang energy from the sky. Why draw in this energy? To balance the double yang or double yin one sees in homosexual couples.
4: If you try to ejaculate less, no fap, no masturbation, realize that you have to train your body to absorb and transform this higher charge (remember the electric wire, it will burn out if you overload it), so you have to have a proper yoga, Taoist, or any other energy practice to transform this power to higher levels, which takes years or decades.
5: Involve your partner if you have one, learn together, explore energy balancing, make love, don’t feel guilty. You can have a long life ahead exploring this over the years. No dogma. Relationships mean literally “to relate”, so communicate, feel, share. Emotions literally means “e-motions” = “energy-motions”. So learn the movements of energy together and share and discover this whole new dimension of life.
6: Take it easy on yourself. Don’t think you can quit an addiction to masturbation or porn in a day, week, or month. You are dealing with one of the strongest forces in the human energy system, jing, and most have simultaneously conditioned their body to overstimulation of their dopamine system as well. This takes time to reset. So don’t feel guilty when you fall back into old patterns. Go step by step, involve your partner, or if you are alone be gentle with yourself, love, be kind, teach yourself, educate yourself and share with your partner, and realize that in our over-sexualized, over-pornified society, so many people are burnt-out, addicted, or sick, due to the overspending of sexual power.
On a personal note: I watched way too much porn when young, over-masturbated excessively, and depleted a lot of my jing at a young age. The Chinese master I went to visit told me at 22 “Tim, if you keep going like this, you’ll die. Harness your powers that you have left.” Years of training it took to not think about porn, balance my energies, learn how to remove even more subtle influences that literally fed these thoughts in my mind, and understand and integrate it all.
Luckily, my partner is very open in all of this, and we cultivated our energy together over many years. We practice the multi-orgasmic method together, don’t make love often, but when we do, it is amazing, and we both have multiple orgasms. Over the years, I ejaculated less and less, and thanks to years of training, can transform most of these power into expanded levels of consciousness. But if after some months of not ejaculating the pressure is too great, I do ejaculate, or if we want to make babies as well of course.
Also, after and during her period, or after having babies, I respect my wife, support her, but we don’t engage in sexual activities until her sexual energy is settled again.
I know all this is a sensitive subject, on which many people have strong opinions, but as always, I don’t avoid sensitive topics, and try to present a balanced view. Usual disclaimers apply: DYOR, be patient, can be wrong, open for everything.
Good luck & love to you all