it’s absurdly easier as a girl to approach guys and i genuinely wish it were different.
when i was trying to find a bf in college, i would literally go up to dudes at the school bar and just say “hi! I’m linda, what’s your name” and that was it. despite the embarrassingly high success rate, i was still incredibly nervous to do it.
it gave me a lot of empathy to people who approach. so whenever someone would come up to me, no matter how attractive or awkward they were, i always tried to be kind.
i know sometimes we don’t like people interrupting our space. i know sometimes, it makes us feel uncomfortable.
but it’s worth remembering: the other person probably feels uncomfortable too. inside, they might be fighting against nervousness, embarrassment, and the fear of rejection.
they're just choosing to push past it in pursuit of finding some sort of human connection.
It’s my personal belief that people aren’t trying to hurt you. they just want to get to know you.
and i think that's worth meeting with a bit of kindness.