The most promiscuous women in history are the same women that don't want to have sex with their husbands. They're also the women that will try to convince you that the past doesn't matter when it comes to marriage and that pair bonding is a choice they make with any man they want
“Withholding sex” is one of the most revealing phrases men use, because it assumes sex was already his and she’s refusing to release it.
Watch what usually comes before it. He did the dishes. He paid a bill. He quoted religion. He acted sad. He found a dozen ways to frame her body as the reward for his effort.
But the question is simple. Did she want him in that moment?
If the answer is no, she wasn’t withholding. She didn’t have desire to give. She was angry, hurt, exhausted, disconnected, repulsed, unseen. And women have been so trained to believe refusal is cruelty that they’ll force themselves through sex they don’t want just to avoid being called abusive.
That is the sickness underneath the whole argument.
Men call it “withholding” because “she doesn’t want me” requires self-reflection.
“Withholding” lets him stay entitled.