“Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body.”
- Ephesians 5:22-23
“Wives, submit to your own husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.”
- Colossians 3:18
“But I want you to know that the head of every man is Christ, the head of woman is man, and the head of Christ is God.”
- 1 Corinthians 11:3
“Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives.”
- 1 Peter 3:1
“Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, whose daughters you are if you do good and are not afraid with any terror.”
- 1 Peter 3:6
“That they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed.”
- Titus 2:4-5
“The heart of her husband safely trusts her; so he will have no lack of gain. She does him good and not evil all the days of her life.”
- Proverbs 31:11-12
“one who rules his own house well, having his children in submission with all reverence”
1 Timothy 3:4
The exegetical problem with the "husbands SHOULD rule over their wives" argument is that the woman's desire to lead her husband (Gen. 3:16) in the same verse is a sinful desire.
Ergo, neither the wife's "desire" nor the husband's "rule" are meant positively in Gen. 3:16. Both stem from the fall. Gouge and other voices like him got much right, but this portrait of Christian marriage is flawed, and consequentially so. Husbands do not exercise godly rule over their wives--no sir.
1 Peter 3:1-7 calls for a wife's submission to her husband's headship, full stop. But this picture of marital authority and submission needs much fuller rounding out from the rest of Scripture. The husband has authority, but his wife is not inferior to him; she is not to obey him as a child obeys their parents; she submits to him as a full equal in Christ; his headship is always to be a gracious, non-severe, self-sacrificing, Christlike headship.