Turns out this is a weird question.
I was trying to design a survey to figure out if men were learning incorrect things in porn. My goal was okay - ask guys if they watch porn. Then ask them about, expectation of what women want done to them in bed. See if the guys who watch porn report different expectations. Simple, right?
Okay. So how do I ask about this? "You have sex with a woman. If you tried [slapping her face], do you think she'd like it?"
Well, a guy reading that would prob go "it depends on the woman." I could say "The last time you had sex with a woman, do you think she would have liked if you tried [slapping her face]?"
Well, probably for most men that's gonna be a girlfriend or wife, and by the time you're regularly banging someone, you're gonna know her preferences, and you'd just be answering directly for what you know she likes.
Okay, so this has to be like, about a girl you just met? First time having sex, and assume yall are bad at communication and so don't talk about your preferences in advance. So I could say "You just meet a woman, if you slap her face without asking her do you think she'd like it?"
Most guys would never try this with a girl they just met without asking. So okay - this scenario needs to have *some* level of trust involved. Maybe it's like, the second or third date after you've built up friendly rapport and established you like each other?
But... most guys still would ask! When I escorted, guys would sort of indicate a request to do anything particularly porny. Guys rarely just wildly try something brand new without some type of in-the-moment negotiation about 'can i?' because they don't wanna offend me or ruin the mood.
So I ended up settling on this scenario:
"Imagine you've been on a few dates with a girl and have good rapport. You decide to try a thing, *without* discussing it beforehand. Predict how likely it is that she would respond positively to it."
Like, when I had to really drill down into it, picking a scenario clear enough to measure where porn is causing guys to do things women don't want in bed, required an extremely specific scenario. Because either you're so new that trying some crazy porn scenario is *retarded* to pull out on a woman without checking in first, or you're sufficiently established that any level of basic communication would make it clear that this isn't a welcome activity.
So when people are arguing that porn teaches men to do porn things in bed, idk what concrete thing they're envisioning. I think probably if this is true, it's much more subtle.
(Btw, I found that men who watched porn, were slightly more accurate at predicting the responses of women's preferences in bed, but especially women who watched porn.)
When people imagine porn has taught men the wrong things for sex, what concrete scenario do they envision? A guy goes home with girl on first date and he tries pounding her too hard doggy style without asking?