it took five years to process what was actually going on when i showed up to uchicago expecting to effortlessly fit in. i thought it'd be full of other anomalies who were dying to find anyone to talk with about the arcane subjects we loved, things we'd been the only one in our high schools to have heard of. it was very much not that, and i was really fucking confused.
in reality: there were a few kids like that. but... mostly no. the grading curves in most classes were not effortful to beat. this blew me away, given the gauntlet of bullshit required to surmount the 4% admit rate. having an enjoyable and successful college experience was seemingly incompatible with both working or not working a job while in classes, and I didn't entirely understand how others did it.
at that point I still thought "being really smart" was the game we were all playing. I was very confused when I showed up and the people in my dorm were talking about vacations to places I'd never heard of. zero intersection between our hobbies, we mutually knew almost nothing about the things the other was interested in. most of them had no working knowledge of what a "military brat" involved when I introduced myself as one. it was weird!
in broad strokes:
some kids quickly understood the game, learned to code-switch, quit leaning into smarts and started leaning into social climbing, got 1'd on the trips to monaco. many of them went pre-professional (doctor, lawyer, consulting). these were probably the best outcomes.
a bunch of us cliqued up and continued to be weird together. 5 years out, some of us had our nerdy obsessions pan out into wins in STEM or academia... but a surprising percentage have sort of fallen off the grid, because IQ good college alone is not enough to stick the class-mobility landing.
tl;dr i think the "meritocracy" propaganda is a huge impediment to the success of the kids admitted for meritocracy, and colleges should probably consider giving the more clueless financial aid recipients some kind of "The Talk" or etiquette class when they get in. but... fuck it, we ball lmao