Goes without saying, but anyone who ever needs legal support/strategy or my input as a victim advocate is MORE than welcome to reach out, no charge ever. Let's keep this place as safe as possible.
Do not hesitate to call people out. Violent people and abusers thrive in places where silence is guaranteed.
-my thing with him was bad but his record was misrepresented to me & I walked away from it feeling like he had knowingly done wrong but that I had bad boundaries
-I nonetheless took it seriously enough that I worked to inform event organizers & people local to him of the risk & tried to get him to come on a podcast with me so the info that he was dangerous to people with bad boundaries could get out. He got cold feet around when the person moderating ran out of bandwidth. I didn’t keep pushing on it
-when someone came to me a while ago with a more recent story that was much worse than mine I realized he actively seeks out vulnerable people who are bad with boundaries & began working on a plan to try to get him back in jail. I was advised not to share anything publicly because it could hurt a potential court case, which is why I didn’t initially say anything even after things started coming to light
-I feel like it’s too late for that approach now, unless more people come forward who might be willing to testify…these kinds of grey area *patterns of abuse around consent* are remarkably difficult to prosecute in the first place
-so what’s left? We can drive him off of twitter, wash our hands of it, and kick the can down the road to the next group of unwitting people who may not have access to any of this, or we can meet him with humanity and work with him to get him into some kind of program with accountability & to agree to shut down any kind of healing center operating in his vicinity