Things the recovery industry will not tell you: 1. The drug worked. That is why people use it. Not weakness. Not moral failure. A neurological event so complete and persuasive that any honest account of addiction has to start there. The problem is not that the drug fails. The problem is that what it does is unrepeatable, and you will burn your entire life to the ground trying to get back to a place that no longer exists. 2. Shame is not guilt. Guilt says I did something bad. Shame says I am something bad. Guilt is appropriate. Shame is a cell with no windows. Most people use the words interchangeably. That mistake is lethal. 3. You cannot shame someone who has already named the thing you are holding over them. Say it first. Say it in plain light. The weapon drops. 4. Guilt can coexist with self-respect. Shame cannot. You can hold the damage and the dignity at the same time. I know because I live there. 5. Radical honesty does not give you back who you were. It hands you the clean slate of who you always wanted to be. The mask comes off. The cartoon other people drew of you stays on the page. 6. Nobody gets clean on a winning streak. 7. You have to be almost self-delusional in your forgiveness of yourself. (Go watch Chase Hughes) 8. The greatest sin was not the chaos. It was the absence. Being unavailable to the people who needed you. 9. Sustainable recovery starts with one thing: honesty with yourself. If you love an addict and want to help, that is the only door in. 10. I am only an expert on my recovery. Nobody is an expert on anyone else’s.

I am very pleased to announce that my bug colour wheel has been accepted into this year’s Royal Academy summer exhibition. This is my sixth time. Have a look it opens on the 16th of June. @royalacademy

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Young people- a warning. Jelly shoes appear to be making a comeback. As a child of the late 1900s (1983), please listen when I tell you these shoes will destroy your feet. They will tear them into smelly, unrecognizable shreds and will cut into your skin like razor blades. You will think you are the exception. You are not. May my side part never cooperate again if I am lying.

This is my favorite scene from The Bible.

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Laurence of dry labia and his harem of boy toys. He’s so far in the closet, he’s in fucking NARNIA.

Se hizo una convocatoria pública para que todos los trombonistas de Nueva York llevaran su instrumento y despidieran a Willie Colón hoy, a la salida de su féretro de la Catedral de San Patricio, donde se celebró una misa en su honor. Mira el resultado:

Valentine’s Day is a rough day in the restaurant industry: Yes sales are up but every year we have 10-20 guys bring their dates/wives to the restaurant and insist they made a reservation (they forgot) then they cause a scene. It’s the same thing every year. So this year we are setting aside an open communal table; 10 seats, and we will seat them all together throughout the night. I’ll share the cctv footage Sunday.

There’s a multipart series unfolding on TikTok of a group of seniors upset their friend Barbara has been cheating at Mah Jong. I’ve been riveted

Doggo just wanted a chance to compete in the Winter Olympics.