Not once has your husband/boyfriend ever told you he didn’t want to have sex, was too tired, or wasn’t in the mood.
Understand the implications in that.
there's a sex therapist who has a ritual of making out with her husband every night before bed, and so many of the comments on her posts are some version of "but what if he gets turned on and I don't want to have sex" and i need men to understand and prioritize non sexual touch.