The concept of a "duty to care" is arguably the most poisonous concept ever applied to politics.
We absolutely do NOT have a "duty to care" for every poor or disadvantaged person on the planet. If we did, that's ALL we'd do, eventually producing more and more of it until we couldn't feed even ourselves.
This is the category of "altruism" that Ayn Rand criticized: not helping others when you can but sacrificing yourself independent of values. It's evil.
All government is coercive. The application of "duty to care" to politics misapplies the emotional dynamic, infusing the mother/child bond where it doesn't belong. This is what makes modern wars so devastating. There's no room for a rational trade-off in a negotiated ceasefire. For example, Ukraine couldn't just surrender a bit of territory in order to maintain their existence. Instead, they're waging an existential war that will absolutely destroy them, even if they win it. This is how a mother should protect a child, NOT how a sovereign should protect his people.
"we have a duty to care for them"
A huge part of modern politics is women leveraging the state to satisfy their desire to nurture a baby but without the risk or commitment. This is the fundamental problem with democracy and universal suffrage.
Any group can leverage the state against any other. Boomers can leverage government against their own children. Poor people can leverage it against the rich. In this case, it's women.
Sometimes it's childless women but often it's women who simply didn't have enough children or grandchildren. Childless women will use the state to give them a replacement baby. Thus, universal suffrage cannot survive low-birth rates.
Women want to "care" for things. Democratic government lets them do so with your money and at your risk. More so, they simultaneously leverage the state to "provide" for them, which they've done via endless social programs and NGOs (funded via government).
Lots of voters abuse the institution of democracy. Ethnic groups favor each other. Poor people rob from the rich and even the middle. Corporations leverage the state against their competitors. All of this is recognized as wrong, but we seemingly ignore the political abuse of women using the state to satisfy their nurturing impulse while neglecting their own obligations.
Women benefit from the sacrifices of their ancestors and the labor of their countrymen, just as men do. As such, they have duties to contribute, and the primary way to do so is having children. Yet few things are as radioactive as the word "duty" next to the phrase "have kids."
One can argue that our society isn't doing enough for women (fine, argue away) but here's hard reality:
1. Women can say "give me more and I'll have children."
2. But they can't say "I refuse to have children" and still benefit from the culture.
I'm not suggesting we force women to have children. I'm suggesting that NOT having children is, akin, to men not paying taxes. Women not paying taxes is NOT the same thing because it's less valuable than them having children.
What does this mean? It means that women aren't doing their part.
I have suggested ideas, such as limiting voting to people who fight in the military, women who have kids, and men who pay a certain amount of taxes. Perhaps we need to be more aggressive and consider the benefits of being a citizen. So here's an idea:
1. Instead of just limiting voting as I described, we restrict citizenship entirely.
2. Only citizens can own land, vote, go into public parks, use public transportation, get access to social programs, use the library, and so on.
The point is to make clear what we are uncomfortable saying: women have duties just as men do. To question whether or not men are doing their duty is entirely reasonable. Maybe men aren't, but women definitely aren't and that's needs to be acknowledged. The concept of falling birth rates isn't independent of biological sex. We have to stop ignoring that this is a problem of and with women.
Democracy will not survive universal suffrage, and Western civilization will not survive women without duty.