I wrote an essay about conflict in relationships:

The most dangerous gap in your life isn’t lack of knowledge. It’s the gap between what you know and what you actually do. Most people already know the habits that would change their life. But few have the discipline to execute them consistently.

This is the correct take on the Bun / Zig / Rust thing. LLMs completely change some of the economics of software development.

Cormac McCarthy, what a writer

The perfectionism-procrastination loop is one of the most insidious traps because it feels like you're being virtuous when you're actually just protecting your ego.

RT @JamesClear: The wedding is an event, love is a practice. The graduation is an event, education is a practice. The race is an event, f…

After ~17 years on PHP using the long-deprecated Kohana framework, PickupUltimate.com now runs on Elixir Phoenix. The port over was mostly automated thanks to AI 🤓 #elixir

RT @JamesClear: Trades are always happening whether you see them or not. -Yes to the early meeting = no to the quiet morning -Yes to the…

Why do you save so many things? Why do you bookmark articles you'll never read? Why do you screenshot quotes you'll never revisit? Why do you add courses to wishlists you'll never open? Because saving feels like having. And having feels like being. Saving that article about productivity makes you feel, for one brief second, like a productive person. Saving that workout plan makes you feel like a fit person. Saving that recipe makes you feel like someone who cooks. The save button is an emotional pacifier. It soothes the anxiety of "I should be doing more" without requiring you to actually do more. And over time, your digital life becomes a monument to the person you wish you were. Folders full of aspirational content. A graveyard of good intentions. A museum of the self you keep promising to become. And every time you open those folders and feel the weight of all that unacted-upon potential, you feel worse. So you close the folder and go consume something new. And save it. And the cycle continues. The hard drive gets fuller. The person stays the same. Transformation isn't something you collect, it's something you do.

The intelligence is in choosing the meaningful over the measurable even when the measurable is what everyone can see.

Health advice comes in two forms: switches and dials. Switches go viral - cut seed oils, try fasting, run barefoot. One fix for everything. Unfortunately, most of being healthy is dials: - Move more - Eat a bit better - Sleep a bit more - Connect a bit more

The stronger your spirit gets, the worse the pain of living a misaligned life will become

Enjoy every minute. The next one is never guaranteed. chrisoakman.com/writing/jerr…

The number of pushups won’t matter until you change how you see yourself. If you see yourself as a lazy person, you’ll always quit. If you start to change who you are, and become someone who trains and doesn’t give up, that’s what matters. Identity change requires action. It’s the proof for your mind that you are someone different than it thinks right now. So start small. Prove to yourself that you’re someone who does 10 pushups and 10 squats right when you wake up every day. You can grow from there, but first we have to change who you think you are.

Your children will become who you are, so be who you want them to be. You are the template.

This is how AI is going to revolutionise industry in the near term. Industry is just a collection of 5 million extremely niche problems. You can try and build AGI, generalise with a monolithic world model embodied in generalised hardware. Or… You can solve 1-2 million of those problems TODAY with a cheap and “good enough” specialist. Capitalism is not going to wait for AGI, when a $12 webcam Raspberry Pi can add 1,000 basis points of productivity to a $10m manufacturing line. Intelligent productivity gains are the first boom wave, and the value will probably be captured by glorified IT consultants, and productive asset owners. SOTA foundation models not required We’re still 5 years away from ubiquitous self driving cars, robotification is at least 5 years after that. But “intelligent systems” is here today.

If you have to sacrifice your health and your relationships to get to whatever "success" you are aiming for, the only outcome is actually failure.