I'm always hesitant to post family stuff, because I always lose followers 😂, but hey, that's where my head's at most of the time.
This week I caught one of my kids doing something inappropriate on their tablet.
My reaction was to snatch the tablet and lecture. But I knew that would create more sneaking and shame.
My wife and I talked it out and asked each other:
"Would we rather have kids who never do the wrong things (impossible by the way), or kids who come to us when they've made bad decisions?"
So I sat down with them and explained why they don't see me on Wednesday mornings.
It's because I meet up super early with another dad to confess our failures that week and pray for each other.
My friend and I do that because we both know how flawed we are, and how those things will grow in the dark until they've destroyed our lives or our families.
I then asked them to practice confession with me. So they talked about what they did and what led them there.
I didn't berate them about it, but I did explain where those actions could take them and have taken others.
We hugged and I led them through a prayer. Then I told them how proud I was and spoke life and truth about who they are.
All that to say: find someone you can talk to, and be the kind of person people can talk to. Don't let stuff grow unchecked in your heart.