Just got to know a popular social media personality Sayoni Chakraborty also took her life yesterday. The mental health crisis in this country is just taking off and things will get progressively worse if we don’t act upon it.
Translating a very useful post by Dr Indranil Saha in English so that it reaches out to more and more people. Please read and share.
"Talk to me," "You could have told me," "Why did you do this?"—it's all pure hypocrisy.
Every time someone takes their own life because of depression, we see the same posts on social media: "Why didn't you call me?" or "You could have talked to us." But what actually happens in real life?
A person who is truly suffering from depression is simply not in the state of mind to talk. They don’t even have the energy to leave their room or sit at the dining table with their family. They might just hug a pillow and stare blankly at the ceiling fan, or stand on a balcony looking down at how far the drop is. And during those very moments, you can barely find anyone around to help them.
Instead, people say things like, "He's acting so weird lately," "Don't invite him, he'll ruin the mood," or "He's gone crazy." They just brush it off with, "Chill bro, we all have problems!"
Then there is the sheer ignorance about depression. People say, "What's a doctor going to do? If you start taking those pills, you'll be stuck taking them for life," or "I feel fine today, why should I take medicine?" We treat depression like a dirty secret. We have no problem taking pills for blood pressure or sugar, but medicine for our minds? Absolutely not.
When arranging marriages, families hide it if the guy or girl takes psychiatric medicine. They are terrified the family will be labeled as having "bad blood" or being "crazy," which would ruin the chances of the other brothers and sisters getting married.
If teenagers tell their parents they feel sad or feel like crying, they are immediately told, "You're overreacting." Parents will say, "We went through hard times too, but we handled it. Just be strong." They don't even try to understand that times have changed, and the world is different now.
Corporate offices will host seminars and lectures on mental health, but then force everyone to keep working in a completely toxic environment. To them, showing any mental weakness just means you are "unfit for work."
So, instead of putting on a fake show of grief after every tragic death, let's learn to accept reality. Let's look at the people around us with a little empathy and stop bullying them. Let's break the taboos around mental health and actually see a doctor when it's time.