I think people under-estimate how much people's lives are derailed by severe withdrawal effects that last for years (that should probably be seen as 'withdrawal nervous system injuries' more accurately as they cannot be reversed by re-instatement) and the effects on dependents, ability to work, and relationships. Impressive poise and grace required to go and deliver this message to the prescriber that did this to you - as is so often, as in this case, without realising. I do think that the academic and leadership class in psychiatry who are more aware of this issue suffer less from ignorance and instead are unfortunately placing reputational management above patient safety.
This week, I returned to the doctor who, four years ago, tapered me using a conventional, linear taper schedule. All this time, I’ve fantasized about this meeting, daydreaming about all the clever things I would say when I finally saw him again. I would bob my head and wag my finger, shaming him for his recklessness and how it derailed not just my life, but my spouse’s and children’s. In the depths of the dark, inhumane suffering that is severe and protracted antidepressant withdrawal, I would sometimes conjure up this fantasy as a distraction. I would be the hero and he would be the villain. Protagonist and antagonist, my story would be complete with this ending of vindication.
As much as I want to hate him for upending my life, I found him to be exactly as Mark describes in his recent Substack: “naively ignorant.” I also found myself deeply sympathizing with the man as he apologized, stuttering nervously, and, I’m sure, fearful of possible recourse. As a friend once said, we shouldn’t be upset with doctors for not knowing. We should be upset with them once we’ve told them and they refuse to learn. In the end, he was open to receiving resources on safer tapering and information on serious withdrawal. I highly recommend Mark’s article to better understand why doctors don’t see, understand, or even know about serious withdrawal.