It’s Prom season.
A time of celebration, the end of an era, a transition point of accomplishment and determination.
But what about the students barred from attending because their attendance was too low, or their behaviour points were too high?
Some schools are deciding the worthy and unworthy every year. The good vs the bad. The entitled vs the excluded.
Every year
@NotFineinSchool families share heartbreaking stories of young people who aren’t allowed to attend. Their parents have purchased the outfit in the hope their child might make it through and want to go.
And the distress caused when a young person digs deep and uses reserves of resilience to attend only to be told they’ve not made the cut. These are kids who’ve planned to complete suicide, battled eating disorders, been mercilessly bullied, gone through chemotherapy, had a traumatic bereavement, found the curriculum inaccessible, been in insecure housing or fled domestic violence.
They’re from racialised or marginalised communities. They’re neurodivergent, young carers (to siblings or parents), they’re care experienced, or have parents in the armed forces.
We’re separating, stigmatising, othering, harming so many young people.
Who is it for? And in whose interest? Is it necessary? Proportionate? Appropriate?
Rights of passage matter. Do we really want a young person’s final memory of school to be ostracism?
What about joy, community, collective celebration, forgiveness, inclusion?