Re-reading Heinlen and this smacked me in face.
I started mentoring some young buys a year or so ago. 3 fairly successful young adults. One is at MIT, one at Harvard and one just finished at UCSD.
What all 3 have in common is how lost they are. Noone to look up to. The current examples are mostly toxic, extreme and disappointing.
So we talk often. About life. Ambition. Goals. Reason about the world. They are prone to outrage very easily. They have a bias to action. But nowhere to channel it.
I started focusing them on side quests. Learn to cook. Learn to knit. Learn to chop wood. That sort of stuff. In a year, with a lot of pushback, they seem much happier, much more at peace with themselves.
I keep thinking about this often. What do young men need and how do we (or even I) can help them with.
I grew up on a “farm”, in a country where if you didn’t do it yourself it simply wasn’t done. I learned everything from butchering an animal, planting and weeding, cooking, electrical work, knitting, painting, everything. Because there wasn’t any other way. Never thought about it. Never had an issue I couldn’t solve. Never thought about “geee, I have to call someone to solve it”.
When I moved to US and finally have the financial wherewithal to hire people to do the work, I done it as a convenience not necessity. These abilities gave me confidence which then lead to calmer, more secure and peaceful self.
And I think that’s the ultimate answer for men. Be capable to be happy.