In 2013, I met one of the pioneering "detransitioners." He'd lived as a woman for a decade and was one of the first who'd had all the surgeries. He said that ultimately after he realized he was as uncomfortable in his body as a woman, and didn't like the way men sexualized women or how women were treated by some men either. He said the newness and novelty wore off and nightly, alone, he began to recognize he was just as uncomfortable living as a woman as living as a man, saying the real problem was hating self and no amount of hair, makeup, nice clothes, or fabulous shoes could change that--though a great increasing effort was made for 10 years. Gradually the choice was made to learn to accept the uniqueness of self and learn to feel comfortable in the body he was born in. As that was accomplished, the heels, "sexy clothes," makeup, and hair style were gradually shed and ultimately the choice was made to return to live as he was biologically born. In 2015 he legally changed all his paperwork to agree with his biological birth gender. We spoke of his remorse. Of his gender affirming medical providers and mental health counselors and their inability to support him emotionally through the process of detransitioning. Ultimately he decided to go back to university and become a mental health clinician in hopes that he could help people learn to feel comfortable in their own body--regardless of gender. He said he wishes he'd never had the surgery and will have to live with that choice for the rest of his life. Keep in mind he'd had the surgery in California way back in 2008ish... so he was already through that entire nearly two decades of believing he was born in the wrong body, surrounded by the earliest researchers in "gender afirmation." Having dealt with very different psychiatric diagnoses and worked though and escaping the profit-based medical system with my own permanent injuries, I had a lot of empathy for this dear man's journey. I think the world would be a much better place if we could be surrounded by people who accept us for who we are and walk with us in our mortal journey withholding judgement and personal opinions about life choices and lifestyles. Each human is having a very individualized mortal experience. That's why no one is an expert on what's right for them except the individual exercising the right to bodily autonomy and the reality that they deserve to live with their own choices, not choices thrust upon them by others who will never live with the consequences of those choices.
I challenge every single person who believes minors should be enabled and even encouraged to transition to read this first person testimony to the end.
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